Keeping The Spiritual Ego In Check

When one sees and hears the word spiritual, immediately it is associated with the words kind, humble, caring, cult, religious, and magical. However, ego and arrogance is rarely used, because surely a truly spiritual person couldn’t be egotistic or arrogant? Sadly, there are some with those traits, and the number is on the increase with the widespread use of social media and the illusion of self-importance with made up titles and labels. The problem lies in people forgetting what spiritualism is really about, and get caught up commercializing their name and creating a brand, and with it all kinds of services. Now, some of these services are helpful and are created in order to help others, but many not only prey on vulnerable people looking for guidance, but also it stems from an inflated self-belief that they can justify what they are doing as a ‘fair exchange’ of goods and services. Quite simply, praise and popularity goes to their head and they believe the hype.

So what can be considered to be egotistical or arrogant? Is there an invisible line that can be crossed? I find one should be wary when they encounter those who  believe that only they are right and others are wrong, and when people are charged excessive fees for services that may not have an outcome. I recently saw on a Facebook post a friend shared that she recommended a spiritual coach who was charging £1000 a month to have access to her via Skype. How does someone decide their time is worth that much, with no actual defined service? Books, and even videos can be helpful as people can choose what they wish to believe, however, it depends on the tone—whether it s inspirational or delivered with a biased dictatorial tone. Modesty is golden, and if someone is not respectful or open to alternate theories of say reincarnation, then how can that be considered spiritual?

I have met some spiritually egotistical people, and regrettably they do give spirituality a bad name. I also saw a job description to be an assistant for a spiritual mentor and trainer (as she calls herself) and the job was hardly spiritual at all, but was really a marketing job to be done as and when needed. It was all about promoting the website, answering queries on the courses, processing payments, and to post on social media new blog posts. The site had some useful information, but was full of click and bait headings, and I’ll be frank here—you can’t just pay for a course to learn how to be psychic and to channel Spirit. Anyone who offers those types of courses are not spiritual. I have seen Shamans offer mentoring to those whom they choose for free, and that’s how it ought to be. Simply put, you cannot put a price on spirituality, and if you do, then that’s not spiritual.

In some spiritual centers, whether they be churches, learning centers, or retreats this is where egotism can breed where people feed off the praises of others. I have worked in and visited such places, and there was a minority that believes the hype and rhetoric of what is written in their profiles. My faith was restored when I met several well-known spiritual writers and names who were humble and modest—some had groupie followings and one even had a PA, but remained very grounded when I had any dealings (Jean Houston, Ray Moody, and Stan Krippner). The same could not be said of the center, or others. Instead they had an air of arrogance in what they stood for. Ultimately, the end result is always about money because without it they cannot continue or exist, and it’s more of a business than a vocation.

It saddens me when spiritualism is so commercialized, which is why I choose to have no adverts on my sites except for my own books, which I offer for free. More importantly one should also know when to stand aside when people have a different view of spiritualism or a belief that differs rather than to argue—discussion is good, but when one side refuses to accept that there are other perspectives, then that becomes spiritually arrogant.

I recently encountered someone (who I now ignore) who purported on an open chat room that they used magic to keep themselves looking young. I merely asked them if they considered that personal gain, and they replied they had that right and control to use magic and boasted about their appearance. My response, in an attempt to signify to others that using magic for personal gain is not ethical, mentioned that there are consequences and that I had seen them first hand. The arrogant reply was, ‘They must have been lousy at magic,’ at which point the full force of the ego was shown. Anyone with spiritual or magickal gifts knows the unspoken responsibilities of using their powers and gifts (or they learn through consequences). For once the ego steps over the boundaries, consequences will arise.

Learn to listen respectfully, even if the person is misguided and present why your belief is credible, be modest when praise is offered and don’t allow it to make you believe you are above others or more ‘advanced’, and remember we are all equal—it’s not what we say and how we say it, but also how we project ourselves to others that matters. Integrity, honesty, and humility are the traits of the truly spiritual.

©2016. S. T. Alvyn.


How Our Past Life Traits Blend Into The Present

Sometimes we can’t explain why we like or dislike something for no apparent reason, and maybe our past lives can account for that. On my own spiritual journey (which has been as rocky as Ernest Shackleton’s expedition to Antarctica) I have looked at why I was drawn to certain things and tried to find a rational explanation for them. Conversely I also looked at things I cannot bear, and in discovering some of my past lives I can begin to understand why.

One of my first realizations was when another Sensitive asked me if I hated water on my face. This is one of my pet hates that no one except my parents know of, as they struggled to wash my hair during my childhood, and if any water dripped onto my face I would scream. Naturally I avoid showers, and is related to a past life event where I was drowned as a witch. Over the years I have learned to live with it; at the hairdressers I keep a towel to hand if water strays, and when I am away I book rooms with bathtubs. My parents could never understood why I would freak out, and all I can say is the thought of an uncontrolled stream of water on my face still makes me feel very uncomfortable.

Recently I have come across articles or people mentioning things that have triggered memories, where there is a familiarity and an aura of calm. As a child I had an obsession with apple trees and begged my mother as a five-year-old to have one. She said it was too much work to keep and my request was denied. A month later she bought some plants she liked and planted them, unbeknown to her they were apple blossom and I had my apple tree after all. I’d also thrown my penny into the wishing well and made a wish to have an apple tree, and whether it was a coincidence or not who knows? Could I have manifested it at five-years-old when I didn’t even know what the word meant then? Three decades later, a past life was revealed to me where I discovered in that lifetime I owned an apple orchard. It was well documented and is where I apparently spent time to get peace. I visited the spot where the orchard would have been (this was three centuries ago), and I felt safe there even though today it is a park. The irony of it all is that I don’t actually eat apples, even as a child, which is why my parents were confused as to why I would want an apple tree. I could never explain my reasoning then, but I still find a sense of calm around apple trees, and apple juice (pure pressed) is my favorite drink.

Most spiritual people like incense and that slow music people have in the background to mediate to. Not I, I cannot stand either and both make me anxious, and I feel sick when I smell incense or hear the music. I never gave it any thought, and it was easy to avoid, and I even banned one flatmate from burning incense when it made me feel nervous, using the excuse of health and safety to stop her. I once went for a regression session and the healer tried to put on a CD with some soothing music, but it wouldn’t work. I told her not to bother as music doesn’t relax me, but actually annoys me. That session revealed a past life where I was sacrificed, which may or may not explain why I don’t like the music played in rituals, or the smell of incense. The healer assumed that’s why the CD player wasn’t working (even though it did an hour before). This also links in with what I recently discovered. I have always had a passion for chocolate; thick hot chocolate as a drink, and bars with no nuts or anything else in it. Some may say it’s a sugar addiction, but I enjoy eating chocolate and see it as a normal part of my life. Apparently in Mayan times a hot chocolate drink was drunk at rituals and used as a celebratory drink, as well as a currency. Has that habit passed down all these lives?  I’m very discerning about the quality of chocolate I eat or drink, and would rather have a small cup of good quality hot chocolate (no milk) rather than a large one from a packet. Again, I’m not sure why I prefer this and whether it has any connection, but I no one knows how I acquired the taste, I just did of my own accord.

There can also be phobias that blend into the present life as well as the traits that brought calm and joy, and that’s when the Soul intuition can help out. In my case with the smell of incense I had a fight or flight response for no rational reason, and while I know I am not in danger of being sacrificed it’s more comfortable if I am kept away from the smell.

We can learn to adapt to these strange and unexplained habits, and perhaps we don’t need to know the origin of them, but many will have been watered down versions of how the Soul behaved in prior lives. It makes me feel less of a freak though knowing there maybe an explanation for why I have preferences and a distaste for other things for no discernable reason, and that’s what makes a Soul unique and eternal as it never forgets what it enjoys and what it needs to be wary of.

©2016. S. T. Alvyn.


Why Guides And Lightworkers Have Difficult Incarnations

One would expect an Old Soul to have an easier time during an incarnation—after all they’ve been through the worst already? That’s not always the case, because on the physical realm, older people slow down and retire, whereas in the Spiritual Realm the Old Souls recently have had more work to do; train and mentor new Guides, and also to heal and Guide their own charges. It can make for a fraught incarnation, while some opt to wind down and pass on any guiding roles. Just because they can and have the capacity to do so doesn’t mean they have to guide, however, some reluctantly do so when they witness the suffering and pain of others.

This doesn’t mean all Guides and Lightworkers will have difficult incarnations, or that those with difficult incarnations are Guides or Lightworkers. Then you ask difficult in relation to what? One cannot judge against their peers as each Soul irrespective of physical age is at a different level. I define a difficult incarnation when the Soul lacks a certain amount of free will and choices on their desired path due to their Soul Purpose of assisting others. Some can see it as a compromised situation, and while many Lightworkers accept this as part of the job it doesn’t make the incarnation easier when they are bombarded with negativity, and their paths get stalled. These contribute to a difficult incarnation, which is separate from the Soul Blueprint plans where a Soul plans their path and possibilities.

Some Lightworkers find it too much and reject their role, or turn a blind eye to events and that is their free will. In fact I think it is healthy as the days of martyrdom are relegated to history books. There has to be some balance as sacrifice is not lightworking, and when a charge or situation affects the incarnation of the Lightworker then they should be free to regain control of their incarnation. Some Lightworkers are very determined and will sacrifice their own journey to aid others, but this may come at a heavy price. While admirable and it is indeed their agreed vocation, some Souls rely and expect too much from Lightworkers, thus negating the purpose of the assistance given.

Guides and Lightworkers also may experience difficult incarnations because they are given knowledge and foresight, and when the charge opts not to follow the advice given, it is hard to watch them fall. I know many will say that the Lightworker can opt to intervene, but overstepping the agreed spiritual boundaries results in conflicts for the Lightworker as it prevents the Soul of the charge from learning. At times, pain is necessary as a tool. In my own experience where I did intervene, my own path was stalled and obstacles arose as a sign to tell me to stop. By forcing me to use my energies to focus on my own path, it made me see that preventing my charge from falling didn’t help, as they had come to expect my help.

Others may say it’s cruel for a Lightworker to choose whom to help and when, but this is not governed solely by their will, but that of the Souls’ other Guides. It’s like a teacher giving their pupils the answers to an upcoming exam because they want them all to pass and not to fail. The pupils won’t learn as much, although the teacher wishes to help them progress and none of them to have to experience the pain of failure. A Lightworker must stick to their role and no more even if the intent is good. That makes it hard when a charge may turn on them, or painful in watching a charge suffer. I had to do this, but I had no choice and when the charge asked for an easy way out again, I said I could not help. I could have, but I had learned my lesson, and saw that the charge needed to learn to let go of their pride, which was holding them back.

An incarnation for a Guide or Lightworkers can be difficult and rewarding, and while they may have agreed to these tasks before incarnating, knowing doesn’t make it easier, but explains why their incarnations won’t always go to plan. Mature Souls who are learning to be Lightworkers may experience the most conflict, where an incarnation can be made up of demanding charges, karmic debt, and achieving their own goals. It’s no wonder some struggle and have difficult incarnations where there are multiple blocks on their own path. Plans can, do, and will change, and Old Souls are used to this, but prefer them to be less rocky, which is why many prefer to be hermits and keep their distance with charges, or are less emotionally attached.

As for me, I choose my charges with care, and let them go when I feel they have become dependent—not forever or to teach them a lesson (as some may think), but to help them to learn to use the skills and knowledge I have given them. That’s my job, to hold their hand, but then to let them learn to walk alone. I also know some may resent me for abandoning them (but won’t see it that way), but in fact I was allowing them to grow, and they can’t if they know they can come running back to me for help without trying first.

©2016. S.T. Alvyn.


Spiritual Patience

To be honest, it can be frustrating at times even for the more spiritually experienced folks when it comes to patience, and when no amount of motivational chants or manifestation affirmations make any difference (some may convince themselves of a slight difference, but can one ever be certain?). There is patience on the physical realm where we are reliant on what happens to us, and our choices in synch with external players, and then there is the unseen spiritual patience we experience from our Guides, and The Powers That Be. Neither allows us much if any control, but we can control how we react or how we perceive things. Some people are born with a laid back nature—a c’est la vie attitude and I feel that is a gift in many ways, as these people tend not to worry so often, or get frustrated when plans don’t work out, and don’t spend sleepless nights racking their brains trying to figure out what went wrong when maybe nothing did. It can simply be a matter of that’s how life works, but should we accept that?

In many respects we should if there were no other options, or it was the best choice at the time, but what about spiritual patience? Often interactions with those in the Spiritual Realm are fragmented, vague, and irregular. Even those who claim to channel at will I treat with skepticism because Guides and spirits do not respond on demand—in times of need they may, but not on request all of the time. That’s when you do need to be patient. Perhaps they have remained quiet because can’t interfere, or wish to prejudice the choices the Soul needs to make in order to learn? However, how long can one wait to discover why something happened, or to wait until some signs point in another direction? Months, or years even, and should you wait or not?

I don’t have the answers, for each of us has different levels of patience and expectations, but I can offer some personal insight. On a spiritual level, patience is hard because the ideal is to put your faith and trust into those unseen powers, but when you wait and nothing happens, what then? That’s when faith can and does waver. People begin to either create a reality based around what hasn’t or has happened, or get angry and frustrated and thus feel lost and abandoned spiritually. I feel many have experienced the latter, and either some event eventually occurs which restores some faith, or people depart from the spiritual path. I can’t say I blame them as I have friends that have been in that situation, and it’s not giving up or losing faith—it’s more the result of being left in a confused state. They want to believe and do, but when there is no concrete evidence in their own lives it’s hard to maintain. It’s like a relationship that doesn’t work out, and you have to decide whether to carry on waiting to see what happens, or to move on.

While time may not be an issue on the Spiritual Realm, on the physical realm it can be, more so because humanity has created a society where success is based on time and age. Trying to reconcile the two realms can be difficult to accept, comprehend, and also to live with. By nature I have always been impatient, but I have learned during the course of my life thus far, it was mainly from not understanding that people have varying levels of abilities and perceptions, and fickle people can blow hot and cold in the same breath. Once you experience these people and know how to cope with them, tolerance and patience levels rise. However, there are those that simply won’t change, and I find it best to avoid them for the sake of  sanity no matter how strong or right you maybe.

Spiritually, I also find it’s very testing because a few years is a long time to wait for answers, or to be shown the right path in relation to the physical realm. What can you do? Ask more Angels, appeal to The Powers That Be, and then what? If there is still no response, do you wait patiently with faith (or is that blind faith?), and how long is too long to wait? How can you tell the difference between a wrong (or not so good) path when nothing happens as a sign, or that Spirit wishes you to wait until either a Soul Connection surfaces or a predestined event occurs? Only your Higher Self knows, but what if that link is weak or has been broken? I would like to trust in Spirit that other Guides, signs, or symbols will appear to help restore the wavering faith, because patience should not be taken for granted, especially spiritual patience. Others would say you shouldn’t wait for Spirit to act, and that is quite true because each Soul should be proactive on their path—incarnations are not for sitting back and seeing what happens, but more of a case accepting when things don’t go according to plan that there maybe a reason. However, when a Soul gets knocked back constantly, then maybe they need to stop and wait for a sign, because disappointments and knock backs create negativity, and also diminishes the Soul’s enthusiasm.

While on the physical realm we are indoctrinated into feeling and believing that time is important rather than results, hence why some spiritual folks (who are patient, and don’t seem to be in a hurry to achieve) are seen as airy fairy and unrealistic. How does one find a balance of both? Not everyone will agree that time is not a factor, especially those involved in business, or politics, so how does one live with these opposing factors? I do believe there must be a compromise on both realms, but as the physical realm has been increasing its use of time as a factor, it is up to the Spiritual Realm (who can see all sides) to help find that balance. That doesn’t mean they should help out on a whim because someone asks so that they can carry on and do other things—that is not the role of Spirit or the use of spiritual powers. It does mean when a Soul is waiting patiently and suffering because they want to have faith, that struggle doesn’t always make them stronger or reinforce their beliefs—it’s more of a relief than added faith when things do get resolved. Patience maybe a virtue, but it is also limited, and those on the spiritual and physical realms need to learn and be discerning with actions that will alter the course for others. Spirit; if you wait too long, then a Soul may get tired and lose faith, but if you act too hastily the Soul may not learn and use that assistance as a crutch.

One may consider my message to Spirit to be bold, but all on each and every realm and dimension, will find lessons can be learned. Guides have to learn, and those in the Spirit Realm must understand that Souls that suffer too much or for too long will lose faith, and that faith may never return. That in itself puts the Soul back a step, and in an incarnation one aims to progress and not regress. It’s like a parent or teacher that pushes a child too hard, that they actually push them away and deter them from the path they were on. This happened to me as a child where both parents and teachers pushed me towards education; I rebelled and opted for a short period of time against it. If they hadn’t pushed me, it’s possible my choices would have been very different. I chose another path due to frustration and a loss of control in my own life and choices.

My reason for writing this is for those who are sitting and waiting for spiritual messages or actions—you maybe waiting a long time, and during that period you may lose track of your path. Is this a test? I don’t like to feel that Souls are being tested, but while you may feel disheartened and also confused, maybe it’s a sign to rest and not be too anxious. A good way is to let your Higher Self and Guides know how you feel, and perhaps they can send reassuring signs? I admit I can be spiritually impatient, but I also know it doesn’t help speed up things, although sometimes I get subtle signs to keep me going. At times it’s still not enough, and I, like many would prefer clear decisive action.

I accept that patience is necessary, but if one is open and clear, waiting is much harder than when a Soul is blocked. One shouldn’t wait in vain, but maybe Spirit has other plans and if each time you try to do something you get pushed back it’s a sign perhaps that you need to wait just that bit longer? That maybe the case, but don’t be afraid to let Spirit know how you feel and if it is getting you down—it’s better said out aloud than to be bottled up and feeling frustrated and confused. Awakening isn’t easy, and learning to be spiritually patient is a trait Souls learn on all realms. When Spirit responds it’s wonderful, and when there is silence, that period of waiting can be lonely and dark, but know it’s not forever.

©2016. S. T. Alvyn.


Do Spiritual Mistakes Exist?

A mistake by definition is something that can be prevented, so theoretically yes, spiritual mistakes can occur. Souls all have choices, and Spirits, Guides, and The Powers That Be all can make choices—whether to help or to stand back. Many people debate the concept of choices and free will, but there is no such thing as unlimited choices, but choices within a given parameter. Imagine an all you can eat buffet; there are many choices, but you can only select from what is out on the table. You may want Mozzarella cheese, but the only cheeses available are Cheddar and Brie, so your choice is limited to what is actually there. This is the same when Souls have choices on their paths; each Soul is given a selected amount of options to choose from, thus one can choose a path that seems like a mistake, as it may not have been best choice from the selection.

What about mistakes for the incarnational plan? No plan can ever be perfect, if that was to be the case then we would not need Guides to aid us, or free will and choices would not exist. With plans there are always options, alternates, possibilities and probabilities. Therefore, nothing is ever etched in stone. I do wonder like many in hindsight, ‘What if?’ when I recall an event—could I have changed things, or would there have been a better outcome? Quite possibly, but also it could have been Fate.

Could I have made a better choice in regards to selecting my immediate physical realm family, location, and career? Perhaps so, but we can never fully predict the outcome, only the possibilities. Do I feel I made some idealistic choices? I would say yes, because you have to make the best of what you have chosen, and often you have to use theories or choose what seems to be the best option at the time. It’s not easy, but you can’t change certain things, but you can control how you view them and cope with them.

When we choose our incarnational paths from our Soul Blueprint, our options arise from a combination of factors; which other Souls are incarnating, where and what challenges they will face, and will they coincide with yours? Naturally some plans get abandoned (such as exit points), but that’s why spiritual errors do occur. Even Guides cannot make each event perfect; they can only work with what the Soul chooses, and are limited to how involved they can be. One must accept that a human incarnation will contain flaws, and errors, but that is part of the challenge—to work through them and cope, and other times to suffer and endure. With the existence of choices, errors and mistakes must exist by default, but as the Soul grows older, it learns to limit them and learns from them.

©2016. S.T. Alvyn.