Can You Fire A Guide Or Cut Ties With Spirit?

While many people hanker or look for signs and messages from Spirit—some read too much into them, and there are the few that wish to ignore the signs. You may ask is that spiritual, and the answer would be ‘yes’ in my opinion, because we all have free will to choose what to do with a message. Signs occur when we need them; either Spirit or a Guide will strategically use them when a Soul veers off course, or the Soul will have planted them before the incarnation in the knowledge that they knew they might require some nudges and triggers. Naturally when they occur the Soul should feel relieved and make sense of what the signs mean. However, there will be those rare times when a Soul just wants to ignore the signs because they have temporarily lost faith in them, or they need a break because they are being overwhelmed. You see when a sign appears, it should encourage, but it can also have an adverse effect and demotivate a Soul.

Not all angel numbers will result in something exceptional, symbols may give hope, but again what if nothing transpires? Are people clutching at straws or expecting too much? This morning I couldn’t sleep and tossed and turned. I had no idea what time it was and reached for my phone, which is usually off, but it was on and it was 4:44. Now some would rejoice at seeing one of the most transformative angel numbers, yet I groaned. I was weary, and also tired of seeing numbers that may give me false hope. I later realized it was a sign that my subsequent visions would be important, and I won’t go into detail, but they weren’t sweet or pleasant dreams. I woke up exhausted and disturbed, so did I really want to see that 4:44 to advise me of the crucial messages, or would it have been better if I hadn’t see the signs?

There are things we can’t avoid, and free will cannot prevent messages from being sent. Unlike an email or letter on the physical plane that you can choose to open, you can’t choose not to hear or see a message from Spirit, although you maybe oblivious to it or choose to consciously ignore it. Some may say you can block messages, and you can block contact from spirits because they need permission to communicate with you. However, is that the same for Spirit and your Guides where you have given them permission to communicate with you eternally before you incarnate? Should you block them, and can you?

It’s a tough question to answer with no valid evidence to back it up. It’s like firing a Guide or choosing to cut ties with Spirit, and is that even wise to consider? I’ve read of people falling out with their Guides or wanting to replace them, but think about it—what do they gain, surely they are acting in your best interests whether you believe it or not. Often it’s because a Guide tells them what they don’t wish to hear, or cannot help them in their desired choices because it is not their path. That is why the Law of Attraction is flawed, and something I caution against as it enables one to believe they can alter Fate and predestined events. If Souls had the choice to dismiss Guides, then it would create an unstable spiritual vortex, because as we can see on the physical plane, Souls can make poor and prejudiced decisions.

In the grand scheme of things, the relationship between a Soul and a Guide can take time to nurture, especially for younger souls. Like most things, one should be patient and don’t forget Guides are chosen with consent before an incarnation, so it isn’t a random act, but one that was planned and agreed. Guides convey messages in different ways and that is why only that Soul will know whether it is a message from them. It would be unwise and arrogant to demand an alternative Guide without considering why they have opted for certain paths. They may also be a Guide in training, although they usually are allocated shorter phases and work under supervision. It’s a little like a learner driver, you should give them a chance because one day that maybe you.

Guides do step back, and many are there only for a phase or a specific event and will then go. As for Spirit, I don’t believe you can cut ties, but if you don’t wish to hear what they have to say, then they will remain quiet for a period in the background until you are ready to listen again. When you reach a level where you can can hear and see signs without hesitation and know immediately what they mean, it can be a slightly different situation depending on what is happening in your incarnation. Sometimes there are warnings, other times there are messages of encouragement, or ones of validation. Interpreting them and making them applicable comes with experience and that is something you cannot be taught. You may read books, listen to lectures, but it’s that innate connection where the unspoken conveys something only that Soul will understand if they are open to it. That does become an issue if the Soul is reluctant to accept the message. You can ignore a message, and you have that free will, but you cannot unknow what you consciously knew.

Maybe you choose not to act on it, so will those messages continue or will Spirit allow you to decide what to do with the message? It’s like opening an email, reading it and not responding to it until you are ready, maybe you star or flag it for later, or choose to delete it? If you choose to delete, do you leave it there to come back to, or do you empty the trash immediately? Then you must ask why? Is it something you don’t want to address, or that you are so tired of the messages that you need to delete them to regain some kind of control? None of the options are wrong, because we should have that freedom to decide. How many times have you gone to the delete folder and retrieved something? With a message, can you truly erase it from your memory, or do you archive it so far back and bury it?

I feel the best way to address this is to tell your Guides that you need a break, or that you don’t have the energy to focus on other things right now. The problem is that physical realm issues appear more urgent such as appointments, paying the bills on time, or meeting a deadline. These all take up time and energy and leaves little left for any spiritual work or thought. Balancing an incarnation in both realms is much harder than most imagine; my inbox here on the physical realm is full of flags and stars, and my spiritual inbox has been overflowing for quite some time. I have had no choice but to delete a few messages, and archive some, and while new ones keep surfacing, yes I wish I could ignore some of them, but sadly I know I can’t. I write this with a deep sigh, and I know I shouldn’t.

My Guides have given me short breaks, and I had asked them before I incarnated to step back, hence when I do receive messages and signs I know they must be pertinent and urgent. It also means that I do get limited support because that’s what I requested. One should never rely too heavily on messages and signs, and in that I mean those who make decisions based purely on what they wish to interpret. Messages and signs are there to make us think, not only about what we choose to do, but also how we evolve and perceive all that is around us. While at times we may feel a need to disconnect, other times it happens naturally. However, no Soul is ever truly disconnected because a connection will always exist, even if it is faint and in the distance.

 

The Emptiness Within And Enduring Triviality

There are some of us that feel an emptiness inside at times, and we search for some meaning or purpose, to life and what surrounds us. We want to know why certain things are so, or why isn’t life fairer. I know it sounds a bit heavy, but some people have jobs to go to, or family to look after, and they don’t think about the meaning of life because they are distracted or have no time. Do we even really need to think about it, or just live it? For some it’s not important and they carry on and seek a balance of pleasure, with paying the bills; that’s life for a huge sector of society, but not for all. Yes, it maybe easier not to think about it, but that doesn’t mean that the questions will stop being asked.

While we may question the purpose of our existence, I don’t rely on God for an explanation, but look at what I wish to achieve in this incarnation. It may sound a little strange not to ask God or a Guide for an answer, but they are not supposed to give us answers, because we need to figure out that part ourselves. We don’t need things to be explained, for if we did, what lessons have we learned? I reflect upon my own incarnation thus far, and I look at the emptiness within. Others may say we should look for gratitude, and look at what we were gifted with, yet I am skeptical of this notion. Are they things that the physical realm considers gifts?

Some may say they are gifted with good health, but that is actually predetermined to an extent, and controllable on the physical plane. Souls maybe born with a disability for a reason, to help them or those around them to learn lessons. Then people can take responsibility to take care of their health, or those who are in good health may have genes that counteract that. What about those born with good looks or financial stability? Again, these are predetermined before an incarnation, so are they gifts when they were already planned? Maybe some spiritual folks will say the love of their family is a gift, but can you measure love, and can you control those around you to love you without manipulation or unconditionally? Love like trust and respect and earned and cannot be bought with actions or material objects. People try, but and it may work for a short period of time, but it’s a case of quid pro quo rather than a conscious action in most cases.

I asked myself the question, “What have I been gifted with?” and to be honest I struggled with a rational answer. In the end it has nothing to do with anything my parents have provided, or anything I have actually done. My gifts are my Soul, my brain, and my morals and ethics. None of these are things that can be bought or transferred, and are what I arrived on this earth with. I value these things more so as I see society crumbling and people around me saying and doing meaningless things, and focusing on petty matters. To them it obviously isn’t meaningless right now, but once they have transitioned they will see how trivial it all was, yet my morals, and ethics will remain with my Soul eternally.

Trivial matters govern the lives of mainly younger souls, the retired, the bored housewife, and the rich whose lives revolve around shopping, eating out and taking vacations. They pick at small matters that only concern them and in fact do no harm, and it’s this wasted energy in the Universe that is defining society and how it functions. Having to deal with these tiring Souls who are petty can be hard work mentally. In the physical realm I wasn’t gifted with much, but had the basics. Most people (including my immediate family) are young souls, and perhaps my role is to help them to learn, because I have been the anchor for all of them since I was a toddler. The spiritual side of me wants to see this as fulfilling, but if I am being honest it’s tiring, mainly unappreciated, and frustrating. It’s a little like an employee who don’t like their bosses but who are stuck with them and put up with it. I’m also going to be honest in that I don’t actually like any of my family, yet I tolerate them and feel responsible for them. There are moments that I stop and let them fall, but then I have to pick up the pieces and so I create more work for myself. That is my emptiness within—that what I do for others, they will not understand or see it.

Being an Old or Ancient Soul is lonely because no one can truly see what really matters, and why I do prefer to be alone to find some solace and balance in knowing what I do is for the bigger picture. An Ancient Soul sees darkness, although they are not attracted to it, at times it can balance things and ground them so they see the reality of what is really around them. In other words, it puts things into perspective, that what many people (not Souls) focus on is meaningless in the long term, and what they don’t focus on could be meaningful in the long term.

For example, people focus on what they look like and while looking clean and tidy is necessary, I’m talking about plastic surgery and the bikini body obsessions that let’s face it when you are dead and buried really isn’t going to matter. Even in a subsequent incarnation it won’t matter because you will have a different body and appearance. Maybe they focus on say being frugal? One hears of people dying and leaving millions while they made do with their living standards or ate frugally. Again, what is the point, while one doesn’t encourage extravagance, what is the point of eating cheap unhealthy food and leaving money to the taxman and to charity? It’s a choice, but is it wise one? Learning to be frugal is necessary for some people, but it does boil down to being controlled by the material and allowing it to define your choices.

Ironically, what people choose not to focus on because they don’t see any immediate benefit is what could help them to grow. An example is learning to be humble; now often there is a choice to be humble, ignorant, or arrogant in a given situation. Many will subconsciously pick the most advantageous option, which may not always be the best in the long term. People don’t usually stop to think about the long-term implications, but a Soul that has awakened can see the relevance.

There is always the easy option, the right thing to do, or the option that provides benefits. At times that can mean missing out on physical realm things, or having those around you criticizing or shunning you. Some won’t understand, because they feel their choice is better. Even if you try to explain it to them, they won’t always listen, but remember, you don’t have to justify your own actions. For many, they cannot see the bigger picture right now, but when they transition they will be reminded of the options they had, and the real reasons for their choice. One thing I will tell you is that choosing to do the right and moral thing is something that will remain with the Soul eternally, but to get to that stage some errors will be made, for that is how one learns.

I hope you can see that much of what society focuses on isn’t conducive to Soul Growth, or that less emphasis is put upon things that actually do matter. I see so much pettiness around me when it really doesn’t matter—if it doesn’t harm or affect another, then it shouldn’t matter. It’s hard to ignore and endure at times when it’s repetitive. Maybe it’s about control? However control is about ego when it concerns others. As for my own immediate family, they are uninspiring young souls that all seek control of others. I let them think that for an easier time, but every now and then I put the brakes on and it shocks them. I will endure my mother’s pettiness as I have done my entire life (there was a spell of not seeing or speaking for a decade or so for my own sanity), tolerate my father’s frugal nature despite the fact he knows he can’t take his money with him and in the space of two years he has nearly died in hospital, and my brother’s arrogance in that he blames someone or something else for anything that goes wrong. I accept this, but I don’t find it useful to me, but I cannot change the vision of those who are blind to what they need to learn and focus on.

I try to think what do I gain from this spiritually—okay, my tolerance and patience levels have been tested to the limit, and I can see that some Souls simply cannot learn even with the best Guides and Mentors around them. I have learned that the Soul must want to learn before they can be taught, and be ready. I have little more to learn from them, yet they have more to learn from me and it’s hard work. I question if I must stay to guide those who cannot see what they need to in order to grow. It’s not looking as if it’s a great deal for me; however, the contracts will end when one side will transition (it’s either me or them).

A teacher gains fulfillment from the success of their students, or that they have been able to help. When that doesn’t happen, it can seem like a failure, but can a teacher be responsible for a student that doesn’t wish to learn? That is my emptiness within, and my struggle to maintain my morals, ethics, and integrity in a realm where many cannot see the long-term benefits. For many they want to know, “What’s in it for me?” or they aren’t interested. This is why Old and Ancient Souls prefer not to reincarnate; for them the emptiness and loneliness can feel like failure. Trying to see a lack of success not as a failure isn’t easy, and that is another lesson I am learning—that my existence is also for others, and while I must endure and tolerate a lonely emptiness within, that is one of my Soul Purposes. I will openly admit I yearn for more inspiring Souls around me, and that financial stability would make a small difference, yet I also know my time here is transient and it won’t matter soon. An incarnation can be an endurance test for Ancient Souls, and so I will indulge in some familiar old texts that help fill the emptiness.

Perfection, Frustration, And Alas… Reality

I’ve been watching the world of late; often shaking my head and sighing even though I know it won’t do much good. As a child I strived for perfection, everything had to be just so. Perhaps that’s because as an Old Soul I knew how things ought to be, and got frustrated when they weren’t? Maybe I just wanted some kind of order in my life? Frustration set in from a very early age when those around me wouldn’t comply, but even today my parents will admit I used to tell them what to do, and they did it (I was about 4 or 5 years old).

During my University and school years I witnessed how unfair the ‘system’ was, and struggled with why it was accepted—surely if you spoke up people would listen to logic. Listen they may do, but act they do not. Why? Because they like their job and title and don’t wish to rock the boat, even if something is unfair. Justice, equality, and parity I soon learned is not the way society works, and that is still true to this day. Yes, one can protest and petition, and sometimes that pressure group will get a result, but only after a few have suffered and dedicated their lives to the cause. Results are never guaranteed, and they take time; decades, and even centuries.

I write this because perfection, while it is individual to each of us is interminable, where the bar can be so high, it can never be achieved, humanly that is. I have a high bar, and I accept I cannot reach it at times and it frustrates me. Logically in my mind, there are certain things that are possible, and when they aren’t achieved it perplexes me. One can ponder and look for answers, but as I have gotten older I see perfection as a standard that can give the self closure and an element of joy in achieving what they aimed for, and it should not be for others to judge, or for their gratification.

This is one of the problems society has by imposing standards of perfection that are unrealistic. Some confuse perfection with OCD and it’s not the same, because levels of perfection can change. These days while I still hanker for perfection, when it doesn’t happen I can let it go because it really doesn’t matter; I mean who does it affect and bother really?  In life situations, the variables change moment by moment, and applying the same standard without flexibility isn’t wise or sensible.

The ultimate fact is humanity and humans are imperfect and flawed. Too often I see on some spiritual website someone quoting that the Soul and each being is perfect. I find that misleading, because someone who let’s say has less than honorable thoughts and intents is led to believe that they are ‘perfect’ and their actions and thoughts are okay, and they are not. No one is perfect, because perfection is a state that constantly evolves and never stops. That is why frustration kicks in, because one must be realistic to understand the concept of perfection.

Is frustration a lack of control, or a by-product of seeking perfection? It can be both, because at times we can have the perfect moment, meal, or feeling, but it is transient and can never be frozen and encapsulated and preserved. This is one of the reasons I advocate realistic spirituality, because if you cannot accept that perfection exists merely to challenge, encourage, and to set the Soul standards, then the incarnation will be filled with frustration, which can lead to blockages in the Soul Growth. It took me a while to see and understand this; I lived in a student house with my friends and while it was fun, it seemed perfect and that illusion was shattered. There were some great and perfect moments, but the reality of it all was that people all have differing needs and perceptions of what is perfect and the lesson is to accept that, and to learn to respect and live with those differing perceptions.

I used to get frustrated when people would listen to my logic, agree and then go off and do the opposite. I still do get frustrated, but I’m the only person who suffers. I have to let others figure out what is best for them at times, and I find people don’t always want to listen, they can hear, but don’t actively listen. Perhaps they do and keep those thoughts at the back of their mind just in case, and that’s all one can do. Living in a realistic world is hard work, mainly because people create their own realities and bubbles within it. A world with lots of pockets of bubbles of slightly different realities is not a healthy one, which is why society and humanity is so fractured. While each country has different customs, and laws, one expects that and discovering new cultures can be fascinating and also enlightening, but when there are too many adverse factions, a stable and peaceful reality seems further out of the grasp of humanity.

I watch the news because I do want to see how humanity is reacting to the treatment of others, and how the world is shaping. Instead I see a lot of destruction, and why? Power—it’s all about ego and power and who has more. Power over the people though? Surely world leaders and monarchs are there to serve the people they represent? The realistic view is that it is rhetoric; the people confer power to them, but few truly serve the public. Recently the new US government halted aid on planned parenthood assistance in third world countries because of the personal beliefs of some in the cabinet. In response the EU has raised funds to counteract this deficit, which will save the lives of many, and I ask how can two highly civilized and educated government bodies be so far apart?

Clearly humanity is not working together as the power struggles continue, and will probably exist for perpetuity. I realize that the world is not and can never be perfect, and it was never meant to be. Humanity can strive for a perfect world; one that is peaceful where no one starves, and where there is no crime, but that is unrealistic. We look for answers as to why people commit crimes; greed, envy, revenge, mental disorders, money, or just because they can. There is no one answer, therefore there can be no solution when the root cause is unknown and cannot be resolved.

Perfection is a transient state, and one we should not get frustrated over when it can’t be achieved (and I’m a Virgo!). That is called reality, and accepting that the world and humanity is not perfect, nor will it ever be. However, that should not stop us striving for it because humanity exists for Souls to evolve and learn. Although progress at times is stalled or limited, we, as the human race should aim to learn from the errors of bygone eras and that is something society is failing to do—perhaps through ignorance or ego, or maybe both?

When You Know The End Draws Near

Some call it pessimism, but often we know something is coming to an end, whether it’s a relationship or a job. You might get an uneasy feeling, or you hope that the old days return, but they never do. Calling time on something, quitting, or ending a relationship is never easy, but it’s one of those things we have to learn to cope with in life.

The first time you end a relationship be a friend or lover is always hard—sometimes it’s temporary, and other times it’s a relief to end something that may have become harmful and destructive. Finding the courage to do so can lead to procrastination, or maybe a reason that is justified?

I’ve resigned from several jobs, and the first was the hardest, but after that it got easier. I wrote the letter and rewrote it; then all the manager did was file it and started looking for a replacement. That made my subsequent letters easier to write. A job is no longer for life, so I always take note of notice periods on contracts, and if you really hate going into work each day, then you have to rethink your priorities.

Ending friendships is harder, and I’ve only done it when people have falsely accused me of something. That’s something I won’t tolerate; a couple then sent messages to apologize, but it was never the same and I learned when it comes to an end that is it. I gave one friend a second chance after she sent me letters of apology, but what she did always created a barrier and the friendship drifted apart naturally.

Romantic relationships are tough because of the emotions and the dreaded task of splitting things, and then you find out who your friends really are. Often the relationship can yo-yo, and there’s a second and even a third chance, but once you get past that stage, it’s more or less over. While you need to work at relationships, sometimes they are destined to fail, but the lesson learned is that it’s not the right kind of relationship for you. If you find yourself avoiding your partner, not looking forward to being with them, or you would rather go for a run in the rain, then the end is nigh…

I’m also a member of some online groups, and to end that relationship (rather than to take a break) needs some justification. A forum I have been on for several years has changed in the last couple of years, as in the members weren’t as nice or interesting, the admins have power trips, and the friends I had made had either terminated their membership or got banned by over zealous admins. I did manage to remain in contact with a few via email and social media, but I finally realized after the last couple of years, the group no longer was positive, but had a negative effect. It’s sad, because I had hoped it would change, and I mentioned numerous times I was on the verge of leaving, and now that time has come. The final straw was reading a post where someone claimed they were tired of being right all of the time, and convinced themselves no one replied to their posts because they were so accurate, there could be no response. I did think it was a joke, but it wasn’t. Maybe I don’t need them, or that my words fall on deaf ears. Either way, it’s like the UK and Brexit—when you choose to leave, end it and don’t look back, but remain on good terms.

Learning to end things and to deal with closure takes time—quite a lot of it, and it’s a process. Closing doors can bring relief or sadness, but there is always a reason why things must end, but we just never know fully why. The important thing to note is that if you sense the end of something to accept it and not to fight it, because that’s when it hurts and you make it harder for yourself.  Memories can’t be erased, but we can choose to recall them in the light we wish. While the group I am choosing to distance myself from will continue, I will visit from time to time, but as a visitor only, and not as a member because I no longer identify with the principles that they represent. Perhaps it’s a new phase for me?

 

Some Ancient Soul Musings

The start of a New Year usually is a relief to many when we see all the predictable ads for gyms, and the stores laden with fitness gadgets, yet people still buy into it! This year I feel will be unsettled, and while we leave behind 2016; a year with a high death count of the well-known, I see that as a mere taster for what is to come. People die, we know that, and the sheer volume of well-known deaths in the past year reminds us that life is transient and death is inevitable. One always wonders whether the Souls concerned had achieved all their goals, or that the ones they were seeking were not longer possible.

One of the best things that has happened is my reconnection with an old spiritual friend, whom I hope will share some of her amazing art work and thoughts here. She was around when I was reawakening, and we’ve been through some tough times together and supported one another. I’ve also been reminded with my recent charge, that we can’t save everyone, and even when lessons are obvious to a Lightworker, it’s not apparent to the charge. I decided to spell out the lesson, and then asked my charge last night if she had learned. She agreed I was right, but said she hadn’t learned her lesson. At that point I stated that it was pointless helping someone if they are not willing to learn, phrased as a rhetorical question. Today the charge is in hospital, and maybe then they will see the importance of learning, rather than seeing her actions as juvenile determination (she is 67, but physical age has no bearing on Soul Age). My words may have been cruel in the eyes of some, but honest and direct; I told her she doesn’t have a broken leg that can be healed, but a deteriorating terminal illness and that she needs to take responsibility and accept that.

As an Ancient Soul, it can be frustrating watching and listening to others make errors that can be avoided. While some ask for advice, the problem is you can’t tell people what they need to discover through experience. How can you know that love can lead to heartbreak when you have never truly experienced it, or how it feels or how to react when someone has betrayed you? No book or agony aunt can tell you how to feel, but can advise you on your options. On a spiritual forum that I sometimes frequent, I have noticed more arrogant members and egotistical posts, and indeed the admins seem to carry that same attitude. It does concern me that people behave in such a manner and think it’s normal or acceptable, but it reminds me that each Soul learns in their own way and at their own pace. It is best to ignore those who are not ready to listen or seek help; what they consider to be help is not usually the help that is offered. Assistance comes in many forms, but those who want short cut answers will be oblivious to what is in front of them. No one is entitled to help, but some assume they have a right to it. Help is offered as and when, and if that person feels the other will benefit. Just because I know and can help, doesn’t mean that I must or will. That is called discernment and free will, as well as being sensible. Why would I wish to help someone who is rude and disrespectful, because all it does is feed their ego, which doesn’t help with their soul growth and takes up my time and energy?

Spiritualism appears to be more commercial as people look for answers, reasons, and blame for why things have happened. Often these people who are dissatisfied with their lot and need someone or something to blame, and spiritualism is not the answer. Many don’t wish to hear things unless it suits them, therefore, why do they ask the question if they don’t want to hear the answer? I always say, don’t ask unless you are ready and prepared to hear the truth. However, reading what many consider to be normal allows me to respond to their behaviors in my own writings, and reminds me that there are many folks who assume they are spiritual (because they have read a few books and can quote others), and perhaps they are in their own minds. The Spiritual Path doesn’t always reveal answers, but it enables one to ask the right questions.

My own path is a little weary, and while I see the world in disarray, the USA is about to validate a dangerous and unworthy leader. Power can be dangerous, and while many people adopt the ‘let’s wait and see’ approach and hope to be surprised, the wise will look at damage limitation. Right now, Narnia seems to be a better place to be. Humanity seems to make the same mistakes over and over again, and isn’t learning…