The Consequences Of A False/Enforced Apology

Learning to say ‘sorry’ genuinely takes courage, guts, ounces of humility, and also a high degree of morality and ethics. It’s one of the Soul Lessons that each Soul will learn at different levels during each incarnation, and one that is responsible for lingering inflated egos. We often see people make public apologies to save face or a reputation, but how genuine are they? Are they forced, or made because it confers advantages (for example to have a lawsuit dropped)? Spiritually, it tows a fine line between what is legal and what is moral. What is legal isn’t always moral, and what is moral isn’t necessarily enforced legally.

Recently a couple of issues have been in the headlines that reminded of how conflicted humanity is in regards to morality. Sean Spicer (the current spokesman for the White House) made an error of judgment in comparing Assad to Hitler, claiming Hitler did not murder innocents using chemical weapons that insulted a whole sector of society, implying Hitler wasn’t evil. Within 24 hours, Spice made a public apology, while the Jewish community called for his resignation. He said sorry, but in his position as the official spokesperson for POTUS he should not have said what he did—it wasn’t illegal, but was incorrect and morally offensive. While he did apologize, one must question the inappropriate use of the language, and consider that the apology was enforced to prevent further embarrassment to the administration, which seems to apologize to the world on a weekly basis at present.

The issue with United Airlines is a little more complex and is a prime example of what is considered legal, isn’t always morally acceptable. The issue revolves around flight UA3411 from Chicago to Louisville on 9 April 2017, which had allegedly been oversold, whereupon four crew members appeared at the gate after all passengers had boarded, and requested seats. The poor management decision was made to remove four passengers who had already boarded the plane in order for the staff to fly for work the next day. No volunteers came forward and four passengers were selected randomly (according to reports). However, one refused and ended up being pulled out of his seat and then dragged with blood on his face off the plane.

The small print on an airline ticket doesn’t automatically guarantee you a seat on a plane, and some may say that the company had a right to remove the passenger, but not by physical force which caused an injury. The problems escalated as video clips were posted online, so people could see the actual incident and exchange, which was exaggerated by airline staff, yet the CEO of United Airlines made a thinly disguised apology, placing the blame on the actions of the passenger. This coupled with the internal letter to all staff saying he stood behind the actions of the staff, and felt that procedures had been followed, led to people cutting up their frequent flyer and credit cards.

What the company failed to do is to genuinely apologize to the passenger and admit their wrong doings, the public could see that. While one can argue whether the airline had a right to refuse the passenger the flight, no one can dispute it is illegal and morally wrong to use excessive force that causes actual bodily harm to someone who is not a threat (a 69 year old senior versus three airport security guards). Police are generally careful with protestors who take part in sit ins, and can remove them as long as they do not physically harm them in the process. In this case, the passenger aboard UA3411 ended up with a broken nose, a cut lip, and the loss of two teeth. An apology was necessary, and came only after the company shares fell, and the public declared they would not use the airline again, three days later.

If the CEO (and his team) had made a genuine apology immediately, the damage limitation would have less severe, because when you acknowledge a mistake, you either apologize, or you don’t accept blame. This is an important Soul Lesson for all—that you must be humble and make an apology when you have made a mistake. Too many try to blame others or make excuses, so why is making an apology so hard? First, you need to learn humility and it’s a challenge with the ego to be able to hold your hand up, or come forward and say that you were wrong or made a mistake. When people ask who is responsible for something, very few come forward unprompted to take responsibility. Usually there is some threat, or an investigation to persuade those responsible to come forward. Humans in general don’t like to accept blame or admit to a mistake, because that is associated with failure, and no one wishes to look like a loser. Yet, failure is how one learns and grows. It’s realizing that you have made a mistake that is the lesson, rather than covering it up, or finding some loophole to apportion blame elsewhere.

I find Older and Ancient Souls are more likely to readily admit to errors than Young Souls, who struggle to accept that they could have been wrong. No one likes to admit to mistakes as that makes them look weak and as a failure, but that is a physical realm concept. Those who are able to apologize and recognize errors without resentment or grudges are those who have learned their Soul Lesson, and thus evolve. Of course there maybe times where there is someone else to blame, which is why parents apologize on behalf of their child if they misbehave, as it is their role to guide. Bosses apologize on behalf of their company, therefore, those in positions of responsibility must learn to apologize for others, not to let them off the hook, but to then guide them and teach them the errors they made if they don’t understand why.

The crux is as your Soul becomes older, it tends to say less, therefore fewer apologies need to be made. An Old Soul can appear boring as they opt not to share an opinion or without realizing, they choose to remain silent, but this is because they know it’s not their place to comment or think  very carefully before they speak. It is the Young Soul or Mature Soul in the early stages that struggle with swallowing their pride to apologize, because they can’t differentiate between the societal physical laws and the moral laws that are universal in time and place. A wise Soul will know when man-made laws (that can adapt and change over time) are not applicable, and when an eternal moral law supersedes that.

In the case of United Airlines it was apparent to the majority that you cannot injure and force a passenger off the plane and say it was within the guidelines. As such those guidelines have been altered, and it’s been an expensive lesson. I believe that the company felt obliged to make an actual apology (after several days, and the second public statement) due to pressure from the media and public, and is a prime example of how not to apologize. If one has to think about it, then it isn’t a genuine apology, and that will still generate adverse karma. Perhaps they did see the error of their ways, but as a large company with plenty of experience and access to high level legal advice, they acted poorly and have looked like amateurs.

Naturally, at times it can take time to realize one has made an error, as stubbornness and arrogance are traits many struggle with. What a Soul will learn is that owning up to a mistake and apologizing is not a sign of weakness, but is one of maturity and integrity. To be able to say that you have learned from something negative means your Soul has evolved, but those who refuse to apologize or accept moral wrongdoing will be stuck on their path until they do. It’s not just pride, but learning the ability to know right from wrong, despite the possible negative outcome. Saying sorry is hard, but to do it with genuine intent and to understand why is part of the Soul Growth. Learn from the errors of others, and don’t wait until you have to say sorry; make the conscious choice to do so as soon as you realize the mistake, for that is when the Soul acknowledges a lesson learnt, and is part of the evolving Soul Expedition.

 

What Is An Altruistic Incarnation?

An altruistic incarnation is one of the hardest things to discuss and to understand. Why would any same Soul volunteer to be abused, murdered, or harmed in an incarnation to help another Soul to learn? Many people don’t understand this concept or even believe it, and I don’t discuss or write about this in detail because people still see it as an injustice,  wrong, and a flawed concept.  This separates those who can see the Soul journey as eternal, and those that see an incarnation as a one off event. Altruistic incarnations can be solely altruistic, or form part of an incarnation. That’s when people get confused and disillusioned with spirituality and humanity. The concept that if a good person does kind things, they shouldn’t be harmed is flawed. One must ask who decides what is good, because good doesn’t always mean moral or ethical. For example, Alan Turing and his team cracked the Enigma Code during WWII, but they chose which information to act on, so was that ethical to choose who would live or die, even though it was the right thing to do? While we may never fully understand why certain events happen at the time, free will allows the Soul to choose, and that is how the Soul learns.

Each Soul accepts the altruistic role before an incarnation, and this is discussed with all the Guides beforehand to ensure that the Soul can cope. This role is offered to the Mature and Old Soul only, as they will be more experienced and can heal faster if there is trauma. The purpose of these kinds of incarnations is to help others learn their lessons. Now, that may well be all good on the spiritual plane, but what does it say for the actions of humans? How can a child being beaten, or a spouse being murdered help others to learn their lessons?

Each action is a conscious choice, and each Soul must face the consequences of those choices. That is the lesson, in that they exercised their free will to enact a bad deed. It is the Soul that opts to follow the poor choice, and in doing so generates adverse karma, and must learn harsh lessons from it. Why did the husband beat the wife? To gain control, from ego, to make themselves feel better? These are the harsh lessons each of us must learn to face.

Altruistic incarnations are difficult, and that’s why often the Soul will not recall agreeing to the role. The bigger picture is that they have selflessly volunteered to assist others with their Soul Goals (and will evolve faster), and some will find their own lives a little empty. If they cannot achieve what they wish and encounter obstacles, it’s because their primary role has not been completed, which can frustrate them. This may occur in situations where there is a disability such as deafness, blindness, or a long-term illness as they serve as the means for others to learn their lessons. In some ways they are like an open target or bait, and other Souls must choose what to do. People tend to ask how and why could this happen, and it may well be because it helps others around them with their Soul Goals. For example, in a family one child is blind, and it creates an opportunity for other members of the family or learn lessons of empathy, patience, kindness, and not to judge others on their appearances. Each member has a choice of how to act or to assist, and that is the role of the altruistic incarnation.

Bad things happen to good people too, and life isn’t about being fair—it’s about growing and learning. I know for some these words may sound idealistic, but think about the situations where you could have helped someone, but you chose not to, or you helped in the way you wanted to and not what they needed. These situations arise to help us to grow subconsciously, and once you realize this, then you can stop and think about why and how you make your choices in life and how it may affect others. Those who volunteer to assist with altruistic incarnations may not understand why things are happening at the time, but will once they transition.

©2016. S. T. Alvyn.

 

 

 

How Our Past Life Traits Blend Into The Present

Sometimes we can’t explain why we like or dislike something for no apparent reason, and maybe our past lives can account for that. On my own spiritual journey (which has been as rocky as Ernest Shackleton’s expedition to Antarctica) I have looked at why I was drawn to certain things and tried to find a rational explanation for them. Conversely I also looked at things I cannot bear, and in discovering some of my past lives I can begin to understand why.

One of my first realizations was when another Sensitive asked me if I hated water on my face. This is one of my pet hates that no one except my parents know of, as they struggled to wash my hair during my childhood, and if any water dripped onto my face I would scream. Naturally I avoid showers, and is related to a past life event where I was drowned as a witch. Over the years I have learned to live with it; at the hairdressers I keep a towel to hand if water strays, and when I am away I book rooms with bathtubs. My parents could never understood why I would freak out, and all I can say is the thought of an uncontrolled stream of water on my face still makes me feel very uncomfortable.

Recently I have come across articles or people mentioning things that have triggered memories, where there is a familiarity and an aura of calm. As a child I had an obsession with apple trees and begged my mother as a five-year-old to have one. She said it was too much work to keep and my request was denied. A month later she bought some plants she liked and planted them, unbeknown to her they were apple blossom and I had my apple tree after all. I’d also thrown my penny into the wishing well and made a wish to have an apple tree, and whether it was a coincidence or not who knows? Could I have manifested it at five-years-old when I didn’t even know what the word meant then? Three decades later, a past life was revealed to me where I discovered in that lifetime I owned an apple orchard. It was well documented and is where I apparently spent time to get peace. I visited the spot where the orchard would have been (this was three centuries ago), and I felt safe there even though today it is a park. The irony of it all is that I don’t actually eat apples, even as a child, which is why my parents were confused as to why I would want an apple tree. I could never explain my reasoning then, but I still find a sense of calm around apple trees, and apple juice (pure pressed) is my favorite drink.

Most spiritual people like incense and that slow music people have in the background to mediate to. Not I, I cannot stand either and both make me anxious, and I feel sick when I smell incense or hear the music. I never gave it any thought, and it was easy to avoid, and I even banned one flatmate from burning incense when it made me feel nervous, using the excuse of health and safety to stop her. I once went for a regression session and the healer tried to put on a CD with some soothing music, but it wouldn’t work. I told her not to bother as music doesn’t relax me, but actually annoys me. That session revealed a past life where I was sacrificed, which may or may not explain why I don’t like the music played in rituals, or the smell of incense. The healer assumed that’s why the CD player wasn’t working (even though it did an hour before). This also links in with what I recently discovered. I have always had a passion for chocolate; thick hot chocolate as a drink, and bars with no nuts or anything else in it. Some may say it’s a sugar addiction, but I enjoy eating chocolate and see it as a normal part of my life. Apparently in Mayan times a hot chocolate drink was drunk at rituals and used as a celebratory drink, as well as a currency. Has that habit passed down all these lives?  I’m very discerning about the quality of chocolate I eat or drink, and would rather have a small cup of good quality hot chocolate (no milk) rather than a large one from a packet. Again, I’m not sure why I prefer this and whether it has any connection, but I no one knows how I acquired the taste, I just did of my own accord.

There can also be phobias that blend into the present life as well as the traits that brought calm and joy, and that’s when the Soul intuition can help out. In my case with the smell of incense I had a fight or flight response for no rational reason, and while I know I am not in danger of being sacrificed it’s more comfortable if I am kept away from the smell.

We can learn to adapt to these strange and unexplained habits, and perhaps we don’t need to know the origin of them, but many will have been watered down versions of how the Soul behaved in prior lives. It makes me feel less of a freak though knowing there maybe an explanation for why I have preferences and a distaste for other things for no discernable reason, and that’s what makes a Soul unique and eternal as it never forgets what it enjoys and what it needs to be wary of.

©2016. S. T. Alvyn.

Spiritual Patience

To be honest, it can be frustrating at times even for the more spiritually experienced folks when it comes to patience, and when no amount of motivational chants or manifestation affirmations make any difference (some may convince themselves of a slight difference, but can one ever be certain?). There is patience on the physical realm where we are reliant on what happens to us, and our choices in synch with external players, and then there is the unseen spiritual patience we experience from our Guides, and The Powers That Be. Neither allows us much if any control, but we can control how we react or how we perceive things. Some people are born with a laid back nature—a c’est la vie attitude and I feel that is a gift in many ways, as these people tend not to worry so often, or get frustrated when plans don’t work out, and don’t spend sleepless nights racking their brains trying to figure out what went wrong when maybe nothing did. It can simply be a matter of that’s how life works, but should we accept that?

In many respects we should if there were no other options, or it was the best choice at the time, but what about spiritual patience? Often interactions with those in the Spiritual Realm are fragmented, vague, and irregular. Even those who claim to channel at will I treat with skepticism because Guides and spirits do not respond on demand—in times of need they may, but not on request all of the time. That’s when you do need to be patient. Perhaps they have remained quiet because can’t interfere, or wish to prejudice the choices the Soul needs to make in order to learn? However, how long can one wait to discover why something happened, or to wait until some signs point in another direction? Months, or years even, and should you wait or not?

I don’t have the answers, for each of us has different levels of patience and expectations, but I can offer some personal insight. On a spiritual level, patience is hard because the ideal is to put your faith and trust into those unseen powers, but when you wait and nothing happens, what then? That’s when faith can and does waver. People begin to either create a reality based around what hasn’t or has happened, or get angry and frustrated and thus feel lost and abandoned spiritually. I feel many have experienced the latter, and either some event eventually occurs which restores some faith, or people depart from the spiritual path. I can’t say I blame them as I have friends that have been in that situation, and it’s not giving up or losing faith—it’s more the result of being left in a confused state. They want to believe and do, but when there is no concrete evidence in their own lives it’s hard to maintain. It’s like a relationship that doesn’t work out, and you have to decide whether to carry on waiting to see what happens, or to move on.

While time may not be an issue on the Spiritual Realm, on the physical realm it can be, more so because humanity has created a society where success is based on time and age. Trying to reconcile the two realms can be difficult to accept, comprehend, and also to live with. By nature I have always been impatient, but I have learned during the course of my life thus far, it was mainly from not understanding that people have varying levels of abilities and perceptions, and fickle people can blow hot and cold in the same breath. Once you experience these people and know how to cope with them, tolerance and patience levels rise. However, there are those that simply won’t change, and I find it best to avoid them for the sake of  sanity no matter how strong or right you maybe.

Spiritually, I also find it’s very testing because a few years is a long time to wait for answers, or to be shown the right path in relation to the physical realm. What can you do? Ask more Angels, appeal to The Powers That Be, and then what? If there is still no response, do you wait patiently with faith (or is that blind faith?), and how long is too long to wait? How can you tell the difference between a wrong (or not so good) path when nothing happens as a sign, or that Spirit wishes you to wait until either a Soul Connection surfaces or a predestined event occurs? Only your Higher Self knows, but what if that link is weak or has been broken? I would like to trust in Spirit that other Guides, signs, or symbols will appear to help restore the wavering faith, because patience should not be taken for granted, especially spiritual patience. Others would say you shouldn’t wait for Spirit to act, and that is quite true because each Soul should be proactive on their path—incarnations are not for sitting back and seeing what happens, but more of a case accepting when things don’t go according to plan that there maybe a reason. However, when a Soul gets knocked back constantly, then maybe they need to stop and wait for a sign, because disappointments and knock backs create negativity, and also diminishes the Soul’s enthusiasm.

While on the physical realm we are indoctrinated into feeling and believing that time is important rather than results, hence why some spiritual folks (who are patient, and don’t seem to be in a hurry to achieve) are seen as airy fairy and unrealistic. How does one find a balance of both? Not everyone will agree that time is not a factor, especially those involved in business, or politics, so how does one live with these opposing factors? I do believe there must be a compromise on both realms, but as the physical realm has been increasing its use of time as a factor, it is up to the Spiritual Realm (who can see all sides) to help find that balance. That doesn’t mean they should help out on a whim because someone asks so that they can carry on and do other things—that is not the role of Spirit or the use of spiritual powers. It does mean when a Soul is waiting patiently and suffering because they want to have faith, that struggle doesn’t always make them stronger or reinforce their beliefs—it’s more of a relief than added faith when things do get resolved. Patience maybe a virtue, but it is also limited, and those on the spiritual and physical realms need to learn and be discerning with actions that will alter the course for others. Spirit; if you wait too long, then a Soul may get tired and lose faith, but if you act too hastily the Soul may not learn and use that assistance as a crutch.

One may consider my message to Spirit to be bold, but all on each and every realm and dimension, will find lessons can be learned. Guides have to learn, and those in the Spirit Realm must understand that Souls that suffer too much or for too long will lose faith, and that faith may never return. That in itself puts the Soul back a step, and in an incarnation one aims to progress and not regress. It’s like a parent or teacher that pushes a child too hard, that they actually push them away and deter them from the path they were on. This happened to me as a child where both parents and teachers pushed me towards education; I rebelled and opted for a short period of time against it. If they hadn’t pushed me, it’s possible my choices would have been very different. I chose another path due to frustration and a loss of control in my own life and choices.

My reason for writing this is for those who are sitting and waiting for spiritual messages or actions—you maybe waiting a long time, and during that period you may lose track of your path. Is this a test? I don’t like to feel that Souls are being tested, but while you may feel disheartened and also confused, maybe it’s a sign to rest and not be too anxious. A good way is to let your Higher Self and Guides know how you feel, and perhaps they can send reassuring signs? I admit I can be spiritually impatient, but I also know it doesn’t help speed up things, although sometimes I get subtle signs to keep me going. At times it’s still not enough, and I, like many would prefer clear decisive action.

I accept that patience is necessary, but if one is open and clear, waiting is much harder than when a Soul is blocked. One shouldn’t wait in vain, but maybe Spirit has other plans and if each time you try to do something you get pushed back it’s a sign perhaps that you need to wait just that bit longer? That maybe the case, but don’t be afraid to let Spirit know how you feel and if it is getting you down—it’s better said out aloud than to be bottled up and feeling frustrated and confused. Awakening isn’t easy, and learning to be spiritually patient is a trait Souls learn on all realms. When Spirit responds it’s wonderful, and when there is silence, that period of waiting can be lonely and dark, but know it’s not forever.

©2016. S. T. Alvyn.

Life Is A Series Of Experiences, Mistakes, And Challenges

“What is life?” That’s one of the questions that has puzzled humanity for centuries, and one that many philosophers have sought to answer. However, I don’t think there is a definitive answer because people will always have their own preconceptions, and expectations based on their culture, environment and upbringing.

Life for someone brought up in a poor family on welfare maybe about surviving hand to mouth, getting a job, their own home, and being happy. For someone who comes from a privileged background, it could be about getting into an Ivy League school, marrying well, and becoming a CEO. Those who live in Third World countries, life maybe about trying to stay alive, finding food, and those in repressed regimes, their lives maybe regulated in what they can do with no choice.

All humans though will go through life and learn through experiences (good and bad), and will make mistakes, and pursue their Soul Challenges subconsciously. I see people striving for a perfect life, but what is perfection? People tend to talk about the good experiences, and prefer to put the bad ones behind them, but these are defining moments that can make a person stronger. One of the human frailties I see is that people consider mistakes as weaknesses, and don’t own up to them. In fact it’s quite the opposite, it takes a strong person to admit they have made a mistake and to correct it, or accept the consequences. It’s the weak that try to hide them or to cover them up with a scapegoat or an excuse.

By accepting that mistakes do occur, is part of life. Naturally making the same one over again means that you haven’t learned what you needed, but once you do then hopefully you won’t do it again. Subconsciously life is a series of experiences that build up strengths, and develops the Soul. These help each person to make decisions, or learn how to, so when they have their Soul Challenges, it can help them achieve them. This is why many challenges don’t begin until later life, in the mid-twenties or often when there is a Saturn return (around 28 or 29 years old).

When people ask what the meaning of life is, or the purpose, the actual living is what life is about. There shouldn’t be pressure to achieve certain things; each of us has different goals. One shouldn’t judge the person who decides to stay in a small town and get a simple job; if that makes them happy then no one should decide whether they have made the best of their life or had a good life. On the other the person who leaves and gets a high flying job, that’s their choice with a different set of experiences.Who knows if it made them happy, or if it enriched their life?

Life is what we choose to make of it, whether it’s subconscious or not. The choices we make create a framework for our lives and incarnations, and while Fate does have a say in things, the pre-planning of an incarnation is merely a blueprint. Consider all your experiences as living and that’s called life.

©2016. S.T. Alvyn.