Guidance for Guides

I’m not comfortable with calling myself a Guide (and doubt I ever will be), but I guess it’s what I do subconsciously with those that cross my path. Now some people have this preconception that Guides know it all, and that nothing can touch them, but it’s not true. At times a Guide needs guidance on how to guide, but whom can they ask especially when they face frustrating situations?  They could try their Guides, but often they must figure it out themselves, and that is no easy task. Another misconception is that Guides will solve everything and sort things out—again that is not quite true. The role of a Guide is just that, to guide and assist you on the path, but not to tell you what to do if you take a wrong turning or if you don’t know which path to take. They can listen, make suggestions through asking you questions (therefore you will have answered the question yourself inadvertently), but they cannot interfere directly. This is because they will negate the impact of the Soul Lesson being learned, and in turn they will receive a reprimand like a slap on the wrist if they do. I’ve had a few slaps on the wrist and I know when to stop or hold back. However, charges rarely understand that, and I know that they won’t so I don’t try to explain it to them and they end up getting angry at me, which isn’t so great.

I’ve always loved books and one of my favorite things to do is browse second hand bookstores or goodwill shops for books. Sometimes I find some old editions, or books I have been meaning to read but never got around to. In the last week or so a few have crossed my path. In truth I was looking for Mrs Dalloway by Virginia Woolf, but a copy never surfaced. Instead I got three books for £1 which included ‘The Girl on the Train’ which was adapted in to a film I haven’t gotten around to watching, a John Grisham novel, and there were a few books by Paul Coelho. It was a trilogy made up of ‘By the River Piedra I sat Down and Wept’, ‘Veronica Decides to die’, and ‘The Devil and Miss Prym’. I was hoping to chance upon a copy of ‘The Alchemist’ in all honesty as the one I read decades ago had been a copy that had been lent to me. I also make it a habit also of not reading reviews, but to pick books based on instinct, plus I hadn’t heard of any of these books. I picked them all up, glanced at the précis and then put them all back. At first I was going to go for the first book as that makes sense, but thought it best to read the back for all of them to be fair. I’ve never been a fan of any work that has ‘devil’ in the title ever since my mother read bible stories of the devil to me as a child, so I put that back immediately. However, something drew me back to it, and as my shopping bags were heavy and it was hot, I made a snap decision to pay and get out of the store.

The books lay in a corner for a couple of weeks, and then while I was buying a charity birthday card I chanced upon ‘The Alchemist’ and was now ready to read ‘The Devil and Miss Prym’. I had no idea what the book was about and read it blind. It answered a few of the questions that had been circulating in my mind for a while, and also gave me small comfort in confirming that Guides and Angels can make mistakes, for all we can do is guide, and if the charge can’t hear or misinterprets something then we can feel as if we failed them. The themes revolve around choices and that we all have good and evil within us, but must recognize each and take control. In Bertha I saw someone who had faith, and even in the end she hoped that it would save her somehow, and it did, but not how she had hoped. You see, people may get tempted and as a Guide you cannot judge, but must allow them to see through the consequences of their actions. Naturally you want to yell at them and tell them they are harming themselves and doing the wrong thing, but it doesn’t help them as that is how they will learn.

Guidance comes to Guides when they need it, because they do need support. In addition more of my predictions have come to fruition which scares me somewhat because it makes it difficult for me to support things that I know will cause pain. However, I know I must and that is one of the burdens a Guide must live with. Since childhood I have been accused of being emotionless and I am. I have empathy, but it is logical empathy rather than emotional empathy. Is there a difference? There is, but if I need to explain it then you are still learning what the differences are and will let you find your own way to determine which is which.

It also reminded me that people will create reasons for their actions even when they know they are wrong. At first I thought I was just being too moralistic, but no, there is right and wrong, just as there is good and evil and humans are not perfect. We see temptation, but we can resist, and even if we succumb it’s never too late to stop and change our minds. The anti-heroine, Miss Prym does just that, and while she attempts to justify her thoughts and actions, we witness the very human struggle to do the right thing, but also to survive. The book crossed my path for a reason, and it reminded me that we all have choices, and that we all make mistakes too—Guides included, and that it’s okay. For no matter how good you think or feel you are, temptation (often disguised as the easy way or brushed off as no one will find out) will lurk in the background and whisper in your ear. You can ignore it, but it’s something you must learn to do, and people get confused with this and assume it’s a Guide validating an action. Guides never tell you what to do, but merely make suggestions in response to answers you give.

I’ve also had some rather direct messages in my dreams, so I suspect an old Guide (and friend) of mine is making a comeback to help me out, however, he is very cryptic (it took a year for some messages to make sense) so I will let you know when I decipher them. Guidance does come, but you still need to figure it out! The life of a Guide can be frustrating, deciphering whether messages are personal or in relation to charges. No matter how experienced you are, you still have to rely on instincts.

Why Life Is The Hardest Exam You Will Take

The most difficult exam each human will undertake is figuring out what their life is about and how to live it. It’s a subconscious act for many and some may find it easy, and others will struggle, but you’ll never know if you passed until you have transitioned (died). For some of you, it may seem rather crude to suggest life exists as a test, but think about it—each action or choice we make is some kind of test as to what we choose to think or do. At times we make errors and correct them; some may take a long time to realize if at all. Perhaps that is the point of life; to learn from our mistakes or know when to make the right choices in a given situation?

I came upon this theory as a few friends of mine are struggling with life, and some wish to give up and yet I cannot do any more than to encourage them not to. Of course I cannot guarantee the outcome, and yes, I too at times yearn to drop things and skip a chapter or two but skipping pages and chapters means you will have to go back to them eventually and that you might have missed some information that was needed. If you read a saga and skip a book you may not understand the significance of something that has happened or in Dostoyevsky’s Crime and Punishment, which is a complex novel of Raskolnikov’s thoughts and actions, if you skip a chapter you miss out on his train of thought, or how he feels about the other characters, and the last few chapters will make little sense. That’s a little like life, sometimes we have to keep going with chapters that are hard work, tiresome, or seem to have no purpose or make no sense. If we skip them, we have to then go back to them and so is counter productive usually in hindsight. If it is towards the end of the incarnation, it means those chapters will have to be revisited in the next incarnation instead.

Life is a test, an exam that we are all taking at different levels, however, for some questions there are no definitive answers. So how can we have an exam with no answers? That is why it this is the hardest exam you will ever take (subconsciously) because you in fact created the questions (beforehand), therefore, only you have the actual answers. Take for example dilemmas, how do you decide on which is the right course of action? What is right for you may not be advantageous for another despite the same dilemma. Each ‘question’ posed is unique to each Soul and that is why there can be no absolute answer.

Some of you maybe asking why are we being tested, and it’s a choice we make when we decide to incarnate, for we are in fact testing ourselves to some extent. Naturally this is a philosophical and spiritual outlook, and many Souls will sail through life oblivious to it all, but for those who question life and its purpose perhaps this will give them some small degree of comfort. If an exam is too easy then you don’t think or learn, and when it is a hard and complex question you have to consider different answers or ways to solve it, and that is what life is about—choosing what is right and to try and not let other factors influence your decision. These may include such things as finances, what other people may think, and what will be quicker. Of course we can skip questions, but then think, why did we choose to ask them in the first place? I have skipped questions and they don’t go away, but come back when you least want them to.

My own life has not been without struggles, but more internal ones where I know what is morally right, and yet am forced to turn a blind eye to what seems wrong at times. All my wisdom and knowledge accumulated over my incarnations cannot shake that feeling when I know I could have done more or said something, yet it was not my place to do so. I have learned that as much as you wish to, many will not listen or choose not to hear. It doesn’t matter how much you know or think you know, the best answers can surprise you, or they can make you feel apathetic. For those who are struggling and want to give up or choose the easy way out, there is no wrong answer as you are still learning. However, like an exam, you can go back to the question if you choose and try and solve it. You also know if you don’t at least try, then you know it is only you that loses out, and that it may weigh on your mind. Many of us think back at the ‘what ifs’ and the lesson from that is to face things and attempt them, so there are fewer what ifs to mull over.

One of the main issues I see in life is people comparing themselves to others, when they don’t realize they are in effect taking different exams. Now I believe in equality, but the fact is some people are taking advanced exams, others are retaking an exam, and others are at entry level and there is no comparison between taking a GED test and a postgraduate exam. It’s hard not to compare or to think things aren’t fair when people plaster everything on social media, but fairness is a physical realm perception that can also lead to envy and greed. Inspiration is great and dandy, but underneath it all, is some of that driven by unnecessary jealousy?

This exam is made up of your own questions, and answers, and the trick is to figure out the point and purpose of the question, and accept that some may not get answered satisfactorily. If only it were as easy as multiple choice, but many answers can be infinite I’m afraid. Tackle the meaning of the question, and the answer will be easier to find even if it’s not the one you prefer.

The Consequences Of A False/Enforced Apology

Learning to say ‘sorry’ genuinely takes courage, guts, ounces of humility, and also a high degree of morality and ethics. It’s one of the Soul Lessons that each Soul will learn at different levels during each incarnation, and one that is responsible for lingering inflated egos. We often see people make public apologies to save face or a reputation, but how genuine are they? Are they forced, or made because it confers advantages (for example to have a lawsuit dropped)? Spiritually, it tows a fine line between what is legal and what is moral. What is legal isn’t always moral, and what is moral isn’t necessarily enforced legally.

Recently a couple of issues have been in the headlines that reminded of how conflicted humanity is in regards to morality. Sean Spicer (the current spokesman for the White House) made an error of judgment in comparing Assad to Hitler, claiming Hitler did not murder innocents using chemical weapons that insulted a whole sector of society, implying Hitler wasn’t evil. Within 24 hours, Spice made a public apology, while the Jewish community called for his resignation. He said sorry, but in his position as the official spokesperson for POTUS he should not have said what he did—it wasn’t illegal, but was incorrect and morally offensive. While he did apologize, one must question the inappropriate use of the language, and consider that the apology was enforced to prevent further embarrassment to the administration, which seems to apologize to the world on a weekly basis at present.

The issue with United Airlines is a little more complex and is a prime example of what is considered legal, isn’t always morally acceptable. The issue revolves around flight UA3411 from Chicago to Louisville on 9 April 2017, which had allegedly been oversold, whereupon four crew members appeared at the gate after all passengers had boarded, and requested seats. The poor management decision was made to remove four passengers who had already boarded the plane in order for the staff to fly for work the next day. No volunteers came forward and four passengers were selected randomly (according to reports). However, one refused and ended up being pulled out of his seat and then dragged with blood on his face off the plane.

The small print on an airline ticket doesn’t automatically guarantee you a seat on a plane, and some may say that the company had a right to remove the passenger, but not by physical force which caused an injury. The problems escalated as video clips were posted online, so people could see the actual incident and exchange, which was exaggerated by airline staff, yet the CEO of United Airlines made a thinly disguised apology, placing the blame on the actions of the passenger. This coupled with the internal letter to all staff saying he stood behind the actions of the staff, and felt that procedures had been followed, led to people cutting up their frequent flyer and credit cards.

What the company failed to do is to genuinely apologize to the passenger and admit their wrong doings, the public could see that. While one can argue whether the airline had a right to refuse the passenger the flight, no one can dispute it is illegal and morally wrong to use excessive force that causes actual bodily harm to someone who is not a threat (a 69 year old senior versus three airport security guards). Police are generally careful with protestors who take part in sit ins, and can remove them as long as they do not physically harm them in the process. In this case, the passenger aboard UA3411 ended up with a broken nose, a cut lip, and the loss of two teeth. An apology was necessary, and came only after the company shares fell, and the public declared they would not use the airline again, three days later.

If the CEO (and his team) had made a genuine apology immediately, the damage limitation would have less severe, because when you acknowledge a mistake, you either apologize, or you don’t accept blame. This is an important Soul Lesson for all—that you must be humble and make an apology when you have made a mistake. Too many try to blame others or make excuses, so why is making an apology so hard? First, you need to learn humility and it’s a challenge with the ego to be able to hold your hand up, or come forward and say that you were wrong or made a mistake. When people ask who is responsible for something, very few come forward unprompted to take responsibility. Usually there is some threat, or an investigation to persuade those responsible to come forward. Humans in general don’t like to accept blame or admit to a mistake, because that is associated with failure, and no one wishes to look like a loser. Yet, failure is how one learns and grows. It’s realizing that you have made a mistake that is the lesson, rather than covering it up, or finding some loophole to apportion blame elsewhere.

I find Older and Ancient Souls are more likely to readily admit to errors than Young Souls, who struggle to accept that they could have been wrong. No one likes to admit to mistakes as that makes them look weak and as a failure, but that is a physical realm concept. Those who are able to apologize and recognize errors without resentment or grudges are those who have learned their Soul Lesson, and thus evolve. Of course there maybe times where there is someone else to blame, which is why parents apologize on behalf of their child if they misbehave, as it is their role to guide. Bosses apologize on behalf of their company, therefore, those in positions of responsibility must learn to apologize for others, not to let them off the hook, but to then guide them and teach them the errors they made if they don’t understand why.

The crux is as your Soul becomes older, it tends to say less, therefore fewer apologies need to be made. An Old Soul can appear boring as they opt not to share an opinion or without realizing, they choose to remain silent, but this is because they know it’s not their place to comment or think  very carefully before they speak. It is the Young Soul or Mature Soul in the early stages that struggle with swallowing their pride to apologize, because they can’t differentiate between the societal physical laws and the moral laws that are universal in time and place. A wise Soul will know when man-made laws (that can adapt and change over time) are not applicable, and when an eternal moral law supersedes that.

In the case of United Airlines it was apparent to the majority that you cannot injure and force a passenger off the plane and say it was within the guidelines. As such those guidelines have been altered, and it’s been an expensive lesson. I believe that the company felt obliged to make an actual apology (after several days, and the second public statement) due to pressure from the media and public, and is a prime example of how not to apologize. If one has to think about it, then it isn’t a genuine apology, and that will still generate adverse karma. Perhaps they did see the error of their ways, but as a large company with plenty of experience and access to high level legal advice, they acted poorly and have looked like amateurs.

Naturally, at times it can take time to realize one has made an error, as stubbornness and arrogance are traits many struggle with. What a Soul will learn is that owning up to a mistake and apologizing is not a sign of weakness, but is one of maturity and integrity. To be able to say that you have learned from something negative means your Soul has evolved, but those who refuse to apologize or accept moral wrongdoing will be stuck on their path until they do. It’s not just pride, but learning the ability to know right from wrong, despite the possible negative outcome. Saying sorry is hard, but to do it with genuine intent and to understand why is part of the Soul Growth. Learn from the errors of others, and don’t wait until you have to say sorry; make the conscious choice to do so as soon as you realize the mistake, for that is when the Soul acknowledges a lesson learnt, and is part of the evolving Soul Expedition.

 

What Is An Altruistic Incarnation?

An altruistic incarnation is one of the hardest things to discuss and to understand. Why would any same Soul volunteer to be abused, murdered, or harmed in an incarnation to help another Soul to learn? Many people don’t understand this concept or even believe it, and I don’t discuss or write about this in detail because people still see it as an injustice,  wrong, and a flawed concept.  This separates those who can see the Soul journey as eternal, and those that see an incarnation as a one off event. Altruistic incarnations can be solely altruistic, or form part of an incarnation. That’s when people get confused and disillusioned with spirituality and humanity. The concept that if a good person does kind things, they shouldn’t be harmed is flawed. One must ask who decides what is good, because good doesn’t always mean moral or ethical. For example, Alan Turing and his team cracked the Enigma Code during WWII, but they chose which information to act on, so was that ethical to choose who would live or die, even though it was the right thing to do? While we may never fully understand why certain events happen at the time, free will allows the Soul to choose, and that is how the Soul learns.

Each Soul accepts the altruistic role before an incarnation, and this is discussed with all the Guides beforehand to ensure that the Soul can cope. This role is offered to the Mature and Old Soul only, as they will be more experienced and can heal faster if there is trauma. The purpose of these kinds of incarnations is to help others learn their lessons. Now, that may well be all good on the spiritual plane, but what does it say for the actions of humans? How can a child being beaten, or a spouse being murdered help others to learn their lessons?

Each action is a conscious choice, and each Soul must face the consequences of those choices. That is the lesson, in that they exercised their free will to enact a bad deed. It is the Soul that opts to follow the poor choice, and in doing so generates adverse karma, and must learn harsh lessons from it. Why did the husband beat the wife? To gain control, from ego, to make themselves feel better? These are the harsh lessons each of us must learn to face.

Altruistic incarnations are difficult, and that’s why often the Soul will not recall agreeing to the role. The bigger picture is that they have selflessly volunteered to assist others with their Soul Goals (and will evolve faster), and some will find their own lives a little empty. If they cannot achieve what they wish and encounter obstacles, it’s because their primary role has not been completed, which can frustrate them. This may occur in situations where there is a disability such as deafness, blindness, or a long-term illness as they serve as the means for others to learn their lessons. In some ways they are like an open target or bait, and other Souls must choose what to do. People tend to ask how and why could this happen, and it may well be because it helps others around them with their Soul Goals. For example, in a family one child is blind, and it creates an opportunity for other members of the family or learn lessons of empathy, patience, kindness, and not to judge others on their appearances. Each member has a choice of how to act or to assist, and that is the role of the altruistic incarnation.

Bad things happen to good people too, and life isn’t about being fair—it’s about growing and learning. I know for some these words may sound idealistic, but think about the situations where you could have helped someone, but you chose not to, or you helped in the way you wanted to and not what they needed. These situations arise to help us to grow subconsciously, and once you realize this, then you can stop and think about why and how you make your choices in life and how it may affect others. Those who volunteer to assist with altruistic incarnations may not understand why things are happening at the time, but will once they transition.

©2016. S. T. Alvyn.

 

 

 

How Our Past Life Traits Blend Into The Present

Sometimes we can’t explain why we like or dislike something for no apparent reason, and maybe our past lives can account for that. On my own spiritual journey (which has been as rocky as Ernest Shackleton’s expedition to Antarctica) I have looked at why I was drawn to certain things and tried to find a rational explanation for them. Conversely I also looked at things I cannot bear, and in discovering some of my past lives I can begin to understand why.

One of my first realizations was when another Sensitive asked me if I hated water on my face. This is one of my pet hates that no one except my parents know of, as they struggled to wash my hair during my childhood, and if any water dripped onto my face I would scream. Naturally I avoid showers, and is related to a past life event where I was drowned as a witch. Over the years I have learned to live with it; at the hairdressers I keep a towel to hand if water strays, and when I am away I book rooms with bathtubs. My parents could never understood why I would freak out, and all I can say is the thought of an uncontrolled stream of water on my face still makes me feel very uncomfortable.

Recently I have come across articles or people mentioning things that have triggered memories, where there is a familiarity and an aura of calm. As a child I had an obsession with apple trees and begged my mother as a five-year-old to have one. She said it was too much work to keep and my request was denied. A month later she bought some plants she liked and planted them, unbeknown to her they were apple blossom and I had my apple tree after all. I’d also thrown my penny into the wishing well and made a wish to have an apple tree, and whether it was a coincidence or not who knows? Could I have manifested it at five-years-old when I didn’t even know what the word meant then? Three decades later, a past life was revealed to me where I discovered in that lifetime I owned an apple orchard. It was well documented and is where I apparently spent time to get peace. I visited the spot where the orchard would have been (this was three centuries ago), and I felt safe there even though today it is a park. The irony of it all is that I don’t actually eat apples, even as a child, which is why my parents were confused as to why I would want an apple tree. I could never explain my reasoning then, but I still find a sense of calm around apple trees, and apple juice (pure pressed) is my favorite drink.

Most spiritual people like incense and that slow music people have in the background to mediate to. Not I, I cannot stand either and both make me anxious, and I feel sick when I smell incense or hear the music. I never gave it any thought, and it was easy to avoid, and I even banned one flatmate from burning incense when it made me feel nervous, using the excuse of health and safety to stop her. I once went for a regression session and the healer tried to put on a CD with some soothing music, but it wouldn’t work. I told her not to bother as music doesn’t relax me, but actually annoys me. That session revealed a past life where I was sacrificed, which may or may not explain why I don’t like the music played in rituals, or the smell of incense. The healer assumed that’s why the CD player wasn’t working (even though it did an hour before). This also links in with what I recently discovered. I have always had a passion for chocolate; thick hot chocolate as a drink, and bars with no nuts or anything else in it. Some may say it’s a sugar addiction, but I enjoy eating chocolate and see it as a normal part of my life. Apparently in Mayan times a hot chocolate drink was drunk at rituals and used as a celebratory drink, as well as a currency. Has that habit passed down all these lives?  I’m very discerning about the quality of chocolate I eat or drink, and would rather have a small cup of good quality hot chocolate (no milk) rather than a large one from a packet. Again, I’m not sure why I prefer this and whether it has any connection, but I no one knows how I acquired the taste, I just did of my own accord.

There can also be phobias that blend into the present life as well as the traits that brought calm and joy, and that’s when the Soul intuition can help out. In my case with the smell of incense I had a fight or flight response for no rational reason, and while I know I am not in danger of being sacrificed it’s more comfortable if I am kept away from the smell.

We can learn to adapt to these strange and unexplained habits, and perhaps we don’t need to know the origin of them, but many will have been watered down versions of how the Soul behaved in prior lives. It makes me feel less of a freak though knowing there maybe an explanation for why I have preferences and a distaste for other things for no discernable reason, and that’s what makes a Soul unique and eternal as it never forgets what it enjoys and what it needs to be wary of.

©2016. S. T. Alvyn.