Guidance for Guides

I’m not comfortable with calling myself a Guide (and doubt I ever will be), but I guess it’s what I do subconsciously with those that cross my path. Now some people have this preconception that Guides know it all, and that nothing can touch them, but it’s not true. At times a Guide needs guidance on how to guide, but whom can they ask especially when they face frustrating situations?  They could try their Guides, but often they must figure it out themselves, and that is no easy task. Another misconception is that Guides will solve everything and sort things out—again that is not quite true. The role of a Guide is just that, to guide and assist you on the path, but not to tell you what to do if you take a wrong turning or if you don’t know which path to take. They can listen, make suggestions through asking you questions (therefore you will have answered the question yourself inadvertently), but they cannot interfere directly. This is because they will negate the impact of the Soul Lesson being learned, and in turn they will receive a reprimand like a slap on the wrist if they do. I’ve had a few slaps on the wrist and I know when to stop or hold back. However, charges rarely understand that, and I know that they won’t so I don’t try to explain it to them and they end up getting angry at me, which isn’t so great.

I’ve always loved books and one of my favorite things to do is browse second hand bookstores or goodwill shops for books. Sometimes I find some old editions, or books I have been meaning to read but never got around to. In the last week or so a few have crossed my path. In truth I was looking for Mrs Dalloway by Virginia Woolf, but a copy never surfaced. Instead I got three books for £1 which included ‘The Girl on the Train’ which was adapted in to a film I haven’t gotten around to watching, a John Grisham novel, and there were a few books by Paul Coelho. It was a trilogy made up of ‘By the River Piedra I sat Down and Wept’, ‘Veronica Decides to die’, and ‘The Devil and Miss Prym’. I was hoping to chance upon a copy of ‘The Alchemist’ in all honesty as the one I read decades ago had been a copy that had been lent to me. I also make it a habit also of not reading reviews, but to pick books based on instinct, plus I hadn’t heard of any of these books. I picked them all up, glanced at the précis and then put them all back. At first I was going to go for the first book as that makes sense, but thought it best to read the back for all of them to be fair. I’ve never been a fan of any work that has ‘devil’ in the title ever since my mother read bible stories of the devil to me as a child, so I put that back immediately. However, something drew me back to it, and as my shopping bags were heavy and it was hot, I made a snap decision to pay and get out of the store.

The books lay in a corner for a couple of weeks, and then while I was buying a charity birthday card I chanced upon ‘The Alchemist’ and was now ready to read ‘The Devil and Miss Prym’. I had no idea what the book was about and read it blind. It answered a few of the questions that had been circulating in my mind for a while, and also gave me small comfort in confirming that Guides and Angels can make mistakes, for all we can do is guide, and if the charge can’t hear or misinterprets something then we can feel as if we failed them. The themes revolve around choices and that we all have good and evil within us, but must recognize each and take control. In Bertha I saw someone who had faith, and even in the end she hoped that it would save her somehow, and it did, but not how she had hoped. You see, people may get tempted and as a Guide you cannot judge, but must allow them to see through the consequences of their actions. Naturally you want to yell at them and tell them they are harming themselves and doing the wrong thing, but it doesn’t help them as that is how they will learn.

Guidance comes to Guides when they need it, because they do need support. In addition more of my predictions have come to fruition which scares me somewhat because it makes it difficult for me to support things that I know will cause pain. However, I know I must and that is one of the burdens a Guide must live with. Since childhood I have been accused of being emotionless and I am. I have empathy, but it is logical empathy rather than emotional empathy. Is there a difference? There is, but if I need to explain it then you are still learning what the differences are and will let you find your own way to determine which is which.

It also reminded me that people will create reasons for their actions even when they know they are wrong. At first I thought I was just being too moralistic, but no, there is right and wrong, just as there is good and evil and humans are not perfect. We see temptation, but we can resist, and even if we succumb it’s never too late to stop and change our minds. The anti-heroine, Miss Prym does just that, and while she attempts to justify her thoughts and actions, we witness the very human struggle to do the right thing, but also to survive. The book crossed my path for a reason, and it reminded me that we all have choices, and that we all make mistakes too—Guides included, and that it’s okay. For no matter how good you think or feel you are, temptation (often disguised as the easy way or brushed off as no one will find out) will lurk in the background and whisper in your ear. You can ignore it, but it’s something you must learn to do, and people get confused with this and assume it’s a Guide validating an action. Guides never tell you what to do, but merely make suggestions in response to answers you give.

I’ve also had some rather direct messages in my dreams, so I suspect an old Guide (and friend) of mine is making a comeback to help me out, however, he is very cryptic (it took a year for some messages to make sense) so I will let you know when I decipher them. Guidance does come, but you still need to figure it out! The life of a Guide can be frustrating, deciphering whether messages are personal or in relation to charges. No matter how experienced you are, you still have to rely on instincts.

Why Life Is The Hardest Exam You Will Take

The most difficult exam each human will undertake is figuring out what their life is about and how to live it. It’s a subconscious act for many and some may find it easy, and others will struggle, but you’ll never know if you passed until you have transitioned (died). For some of you, it may seem rather crude to suggest life exists as a test, but think about it—each action or choice we make is some kind of test as to what we choose to think or do. At times we make errors and correct them; some may take a long time to realize if at all. Perhaps that is the point of life; to learn from our mistakes or know when to make the right choices in a given situation?

I came upon this theory as a few friends of mine are struggling with life, and some wish to give up and yet I cannot do any more than to encourage them not to. Of course I cannot guarantee the outcome, and yes, I too at times yearn to drop things and skip a chapter or two but skipping pages and chapters means you will have to go back to them eventually and that you might have missed some information that was needed. If you read a saga and skip a book you may not understand the significance of something that has happened or in Dostoyevsky’s Crime and Punishment, which is a complex novel of Raskolnikov’s thoughts and actions, if you skip a chapter you miss out on his train of thought, or how he feels about the other characters, and the last few chapters will make little sense. That’s a little like life, sometimes we have to keep going with chapters that are hard work, tiresome, or seem to have no purpose or make no sense. If we skip them, we have to then go back to them and so is counter productive usually in hindsight. If it is towards the end of the incarnation, it means those chapters will have to be revisited in the next incarnation instead.

Life is a test, an exam that we are all taking at different levels, however, for some questions there are no definitive answers. So how can we have an exam with no answers? That is why it this is the hardest exam you will ever take (subconsciously) because you in fact created the questions (beforehand), therefore, only you have the actual answers. Take for example dilemmas, how do you decide on which is the right course of action? What is right for you may not be advantageous for another despite the same dilemma. Each ‘question’ posed is unique to each Soul and that is why there can be no absolute answer.

Some of you maybe asking why are we being tested, and it’s a choice we make when we decide to incarnate, for we are in fact testing ourselves to some extent. Naturally this is a philosophical and spiritual outlook, and many Souls will sail through life oblivious to it all, but for those who question life and its purpose perhaps this will give them some small degree of comfort. If an exam is too easy then you don’t think or learn, and when it is a hard and complex question you have to consider different answers or ways to solve it, and that is what life is about—choosing what is right and to try and not let other factors influence your decision. These may include such things as finances, what other people may think, and what will be quicker. Of course we can skip questions, but then think, why did we choose to ask them in the first place? I have skipped questions and they don’t go away, but come back when you least want them to.

My own life has not been without struggles, but more internal ones where I know what is morally right, and yet am forced to turn a blind eye to what seems wrong at times. All my wisdom and knowledge accumulated over my incarnations cannot shake that feeling when I know I could have done more or said something, yet it was not my place to do so. I have learned that as much as you wish to, many will not listen or choose not to hear. It doesn’t matter how much you know or think you know, the best answers can surprise you, or they can make you feel apathetic. For those who are struggling and want to give up or choose the easy way out, there is no wrong answer as you are still learning. However, like an exam, you can go back to the question if you choose and try and solve it. You also know if you don’t at least try, then you know it is only you that loses out, and that it may weigh on your mind. Many of us think back at the ‘what ifs’ and the lesson from that is to face things and attempt them, so there are fewer what ifs to mull over.

One of the main issues I see in life is people comparing themselves to others, when they don’t realize they are in effect taking different exams. Now I believe in equality, but the fact is some people are taking advanced exams, others are retaking an exam, and others are at entry level and there is no comparison between taking a GED test and a postgraduate exam. It’s hard not to compare or to think things aren’t fair when people plaster everything on social media, but fairness is a physical realm perception that can also lead to envy and greed. Inspiration is great and dandy, but underneath it all, is some of that driven by unnecessary jealousy?

This exam is made up of your own questions, and answers, and the trick is to figure out the point and purpose of the question, and accept that some may not get answered satisfactorily. If only it were as easy as multiple choice, but many answers can be infinite I’m afraid. Tackle the meaning of the question, and the answer will be easier to find even if it’s not the one you prefer.

Can You Fire A Guide Or Cut Ties With Spirit?

While many people hanker or look for signs and messages from Spirit—some read too much into them, and there are the few that wish to ignore the signs. You may ask is that spiritual, and the answer would be ‘yes’ in my opinion, because we all have free will to choose what to do with a message. Signs occur when we need them; either Spirit or a Guide will strategically use them when a Soul veers off course, or the Soul will have planted them before the incarnation in the knowledge that they knew they might require some nudges and triggers. Naturally when they occur the Soul should feel relieved and make sense of what the signs mean. However, there will be those rare times when a Soul just wants to ignore the signs because they have temporarily lost faith in them, or they need a break because they are being overwhelmed. You see when a sign appears, it should encourage, but it can also have an adverse effect and demotivate a Soul.

Not all angel numbers will result in something exceptional, symbols may give hope, but again what if nothing transpires? Are people clutching at straws or expecting too much? This morning I couldn’t sleep and tossed and turned. I had no idea what time it was and reached for my phone, which is usually off, but it was on and it was 4:44. Now some would rejoice at seeing one of the most transformative angel numbers, yet I groaned. I was weary, and also tired of seeing numbers that may give me false hope. I later realized it was a sign that my subsequent visions would be important, and I won’t go into detail, but they weren’t sweet or pleasant dreams. I woke up exhausted and disturbed, so did I really want to see that 4:44 to advise me of the crucial messages, or would it have been better if I hadn’t see the signs?

There are things we can’t avoid, and free will cannot prevent messages from being sent. Unlike an email or letter on the physical plane that you can choose to open, you can’t choose not to hear or see a message from Spirit, although you maybe oblivious to it or choose to consciously ignore it. Some may say you can block messages, and you can block contact from spirits because they need permission to communicate with you. However, is that the same for Spirit and your Guides where you have given them permission to communicate with you eternally before you incarnate? Should you block them, and can you?

It’s a tough question to answer with no valid evidence to back it up. It’s like firing a Guide or choosing to cut ties with Spirit, and is that even wise to consider? I’ve read of people falling out with their Guides or wanting to replace them, but think about it—what do they gain, surely they are acting in your best interests whether you believe it or not. Often it’s because a Guide tells them what they don’t wish to hear, or cannot help them in their desired choices because it is not their path. That is why the Law of Attraction is flawed, and something I caution against as it enables one to believe they can alter Fate and predestined events. If Souls had the choice to dismiss Guides, then it would create an unstable spiritual vortex, because as we can see on the physical plane, Souls can make poor and prejudiced decisions.

In the grand scheme of things, the relationship between a Soul and a Guide can take time to nurture, especially for younger souls. Like most things, one should be patient and don’t forget Guides are chosen with consent before an incarnation, so it isn’t a random act, but one that was planned and agreed. Guides convey messages in different ways and that is why only that Soul will know whether it is a message from them. It would be unwise and arrogant to demand an alternative Guide without considering why they have opted for certain paths. They may also be a Guide in training, although they usually are allocated shorter phases and work under supervision. It’s a little like a learner driver, you should give them a chance because one day that maybe you.

Guides do step back, and many are there only for a phase or a specific event and will then go. As for Spirit, I don’t believe you can cut ties, but if you don’t wish to hear what they have to say, then they will remain quiet for a period in the background until you are ready to listen again. When you reach a level where you can can hear and see signs without hesitation and know immediately what they mean, it can be a slightly different situation depending on what is happening in your incarnation. Sometimes there are warnings, other times there are messages of encouragement, or ones of validation. Interpreting them and making them applicable comes with experience and that is something you cannot be taught. You may read books, listen to lectures, but it’s that innate connection where the unspoken conveys something only that Soul will understand if they are open to it. That does become an issue if the Soul is reluctant to accept the message. You can ignore a message, and you have that free will, but you cannot unknow what you consciously knew.

Maybe you choose not to act on it, so will those messages continue or will Spirit allow you to decide what to do with the message? It’s like opening an email, reading it and not responding to it until you are ready, maybe you star or flag it for later, or choose to delete it? If you choose to delete, do you leave it there to come back to, or do you empty the trash immediately? Then you must ask why? Is it something you don’t want to address, or that you are so tired of the messages that you need to delete them to regain some kind of control? None of the options are wrong, because we should have that freedom to decide. How many times have you gone to the delete folder and retrieved something? With a message, can you truly erase it from your memory, or do you archive it so far back and bury it?

I feel the best way to address this is to tell your Guides that you need a break, or that you don’t have the energy to focus on other things right now. The problem is that physical realm issues appear more urgent such as appointments, paying the bills on time, or meeting a deadline. These all take up time and energy and leaves little left for any spiritual work or thought. Balancing an incarnation in both realms is much harder than most imagine; my inbox here on the physical realm is full of flags and stars, and my spiritual inbox has been overflowing for quite some time. I have had no choice but to delete a few messages, and archive some, and while new ones keep surfacing, yes I wish I could ignore some of them, but sadly I know I can’t. I write this with a deep sigh, and I know I shouldn’t.

My Guides have given me short breaks, and I had asked them before I incarnated to step back, hence when I do receive messages and signs I know they must be pertinent and urgent. It also means that I do get limited support because that’s what I requested. One should never rely too heavily on messages and signs, and in that I mean those who make decisions based purely on what they wish to interpret. Messages and signs are there to make us think, not only about what we choose to do, but also how we evolve and perceive all that is around us. While at times we may feel a need to disconnect, other times it happens naturally. However, no Soul is ever truly disconnected because a connection will always exist, even if it is faint and in the distance.

 

The Consequences Of A False/Enforced Apology

Learning to say ‘sorry’ genuinely takes courage, guts, ounces of humility, and also a high degree of morality and ethics. It’s one of the Soul Lessons that each Soul will learn at different levels during each incarnation, and one that is responsible for lingering inflated egos. We often see people make public apologies to save face or a reputation, but how genuine are they? Are they forced, or made because it confers advantages (for example to have a lawsuit dropped)? Spiritually, it tows a fine line between what is legal and what is moral. What is legal isn’t always moral, and what is moral isn’t necessarily enforced legally.

Recently a couple of issues have been in the headlines that reminded of how conflicted humanity is in regards to morality. Sean Spicer (the current spokesman for the White House) made an error of judgment in comparing Assad to Hitler, claiming Hitler did not murder innocents using chemical weapons that insulted a whole sector of society, implying Hitler wasn’t evil. Within 24 hours, Spice made a public apology, while the Jewish community called for his resignation. He said sorry, but in his position as the official spokesperson for POTUS he should not have said what he did—it wasn’t illegal, but was incorrect and morally offensive. While he did apologize, one must question the inappropriate use of the language, and consider that the apology was enforced to prevent further embarrassment to the administration, which seems to apologize to the world on a weekly basis at present.

The issue with United Airlines is a little more complex and is a prime example of what is considered legal, isn’t always morally acceptable. The issue revolves around flight UA3411 from Chicago to Louisville on 9 April 2017, which had allegedly been oversold, whereupon four crew members appeared at the gate after all passengers had boarded, and requested seats. The poor management decision was made to remove four passengers who had already boarded the plane in order for the staff to fly for work the next day. No volunteers came forward and four passengers were selected randomly (according to reports). However, one refused and ended up being pulled out of his seat and then dragged with blood on his face off the plane.

The small print on an airline ticket doesn’t automatically guarantee you a seat on a plane, and some may say that the company had a right to remove the passenger, but not by physical force which caused an injury. The problems escalated as video clips were posted online, so people could see the actual incident and exchange, which was exaggerated by airline staff, yet the CEO of United Airlines made a thinly disguised apology, placing the blame on the actions of the passenger. This coupled with the internal letter to all staff saying he stood behind the actions of the staff, and felt that procedures had been followed, led to people cutting up their frequent flyer and credit cards.

What the company failed to do is to genuinely apologize to the passenger and admit their wrong doings, the public could see that. While one can argue whether the airline had a right to refuse the passenger the flight, no one can dispute it is illegal and morally wrong to use excessive force that causes actual bodily harm to someone who is not a threat (a 69 year old senior versus three airport security guards). Police are generally careful with protestors who take part in sit ins, and can remove them as long as they do not physically harm them in the process. In this case, the passenger aboard UA3411 ended up with a broken nose, a cut lip, and the loss of two teeth. An apology was necessary, and came only after the company shares fell, and the public declared they would not use the airline again, three days later.

If the CEO (and his team) had made a genuine apology immediately, the damage limitation would have less severe, because when you acknowledge a mistake, you either apologize, or you don’t accept blame. This is an important Soul Lesson for all—that you must be humble and make an apology when you have made a mistake. Too many try to blame others or make excuses, so why is making an apology so hard? First, you need to learn humility and it’s a challenge with the ego to be able to hold your hand up, or come forward and say that you were wrong or made a mistake. When people ask who is responsible for something, very few come forward unprompted to take responsibility. Usually there is some threat, or an investigation to persuade those responsible to come forward. Humans in general don’t like to accept blame or admit to a mistake, because that is associated with failure, and no one wishes to look like a loser. Yet, failure is how one learns and grows. It’s realizing that you have made a mistake that is the lesson, rather than covering it up, or finding some loophole to apportion blame elsewhere.

I find Older and Ancient Souls are more likely to readily admit to errors than Young Souls, who struggle to accept that they could have been wrong. No one likes to admit to mistakes as that makes them look weak and as a failure, but that is a physical realm concept. Those who are able to apologize and recognize errors without resentment or grudges are those who have learned their Soul Lesson, and thus evolve. Of course there maybe times where there is someone else to blame, which is why parents apologize on behalf of their child if they misbehave, as it is their role to guide. Bosses apologize on behalf of their company, therefore, those in positions of responsibility must learn to apologize for others, not to let them off the hook, but to then guide them and teach them the errors they made if they don’t understand why.

The crux is as your Soul becomes older, it tends to say less, therefore fewer apologies need to be made. An Old Soul can appear boring as they opt not to share an opinion or without realizing, they choose to remain silent, but this is because they know it’s not their place to comment or think  very carefully before they speak. It is the Young Soul or Mature Soul in the early stages that struggle with swallowing their pride to apologize, because they can’t differentiate between the societal physical laws and the moral laws that are universal in time and place. A wise Soul will know when man-made laws (that can adapt and change over time) are not applicable, and when an eternal moral law supersedes that.

In the case of United Airlines it was apparent to the majority that you cannot injure and force a passenger off the plane and say it was within the guidelines. As such those guidelines have been altered, and it’s been an expensive lesson. I believe that the company felt obliged to make an actual apology (after several days, and the second public statement) due to pressure from the media and public, and is a prime example of how not to apologize. If one has to think about it, then it isn’t a genuine apology, and that will still generate adverse karma. Perhaps they did see the error of their ways, but as a large company with plenty of experience and access to high level legal advice, they acted poorly and have looked like amateurs.

Naturally, at times it can take time to realize one has made an error, as stubbornness and arrogance are traits many struggle with. What a Soul will learn is that owning up to a mistake and apologizing is not a sign of weakness, but is one of maturity and integrity. To be able to say that you have learned from something negative means your Soul has evolved, but those who refuse to apologize or accept moral wrongdoing will be stuck on their path until they do. It’s not just pride, but learning the ability to know right from wrong, despite the possible negative outcome. Saying sorry is hard, but to do it with genuine intent and to understand why is part of the Soul Growth. Learn from the errors of others, and don’t wait until you have to say sorry; make the conscious choice to do so as soon as you realize the mistake, for that is when the Soul acknowledges a lesson learnt, and is part of the evolving Soul Expedition.

 

Why Closure Is a Lesson For All Souls

Death is a means of closure, or so we may think, but is it really? Whether it’s finding closure on a betrayal, a relationship separation, an argument between friends, or a family feud—Souls of all ages will encounter lessons of closure at some point in their incarnation. It’s never easy, and how do you know if and when you have closure? Is closure forgiveness or does it require more? What if it’s guilt? Is it more than forgiving yourself, and what if you can’t?

I was recently reminded of this when an old best friend’s mother died, and as lovely as she was, she never seemed to have had closure on her divorce, or the issues with her daughter. On occasions she would act irrationally, but in hindsight it was a means to protect herself, and to assert her position to prevent her feeling the pain of the divorce. At times when we have been wronged, it is hard to find that strength to forgive and get closure. While divorce is a means toward closure, it’s only a legal matter and the emotional issues can linger for decades. Former spouses still end up in games of tit for tat, or find ways to punish one another when an opportunity arises subconsciously. That hinders actual closure.

These days with social media and the internet, people tend to think if they delete a profile or unfriend someone on Facebook then that gives them closure. Often it doesn’t as the resentment remains, or people delete things as a quick fix because they don’t like something or wish to face it. A friend of mine has a habit of deleting everything they don’t like in attempt to have closure, however, you can’t have true closure through escape. Pretending something never happened or that has been erased doesn’t mean it didn’t exist. Rather than closure, it’s more of a denial.

Some people who are terminally ill may feel a need to get closure on things before they leave, while others (usually younger souls) may not feel they have to. But what about those who are still alive and who weren’t able to get closure from someone who has transitioned? That is where reincarnation comes in, and whatever transpired will reoccur in the next incarnation so the issue can be resolved and closure can be achieved.

Family feuds are one the issues that binds people together when death occurs. There is an unspoken obligation to inform other family members (even if they have never spoken to one another) when someone has died. However, while people do consider blood to be thicker and a bond, more families live far away, lose contact, and barely know one another except for a shared surname and ancestors. How does one get closure on family matters when there is no communication? Perhaps that’s a reason why more Souls tend to reincarnate together because closure wasn’t achieved on all sides?

For many that have loved and lost, learning to accept closure on a failed relationship is both painful, and also leads to a feeling of failure. The burning of letters, deleting their texts, and throwing out their possessions maybe acts of closure, but often they are done in anger to try and remove the presence of that person. Some move on quickly to another relationship on the rebound to compensate for those feelings, but unless they have had closure it may lead to the same situation again. There is no magic time frame or formula for closure to be achieved, because it’s only possible when each Soul is ready to accept what has happened without resentment or anger. In real life that can stretch to years, and emotions aren’t things you can always control or be rational about.

Even when friendships drift apart or end due to disagreements, it’s hard to accept that someone you have known no longer will be in or wishes to be a part of your life. In a sense it’s rejection and loss, and closure can be hard because deep down we hope rifts can be mended. While that hope remains, the Soul doesn’t want or seek closure, even though it maybe inevitable. I like to think of friends as those who care about you unconditionally, and there will be fallouts and arguments, but that is natural. Choosing to end a friendship (a true one) is as major as a relationship, because one chooses friends unlike family members, and that loss can be greater when there is no justifiable reason.

Closure on issues can take years, and often it’s subconscious as any anger, resentment or pain slowly erodes, or distractions have occurred to prevent any dwelling on the issues. Saying you have had closure and actually feeling you have had closure are very different things. It’s more than letting things go, but having a deeper understanding of why something had to happen, its purpose, and what you have learnt from it (whether good or bad). When you can talk about the incidents that need closure without anger and remorse, then you have true closure.

It takes time (maybe the entire incarnation) because that’s one of the greatest lessons each Soul learns during an incarnation; how to get closure and to know when they have actually achieved it, because they have learnt a Soul Lesson. Some however don’t get closure, and they end an incarnation with outstanding issues. They then have a choice to reincarnate immediately to get closure, or to seek guidance if they don’t feel ready for closure and need time to heal. Even in death, there is no guarantee of closure because Souls are eternal. It’s with this knowledge (or theory for those who struggle with this belief) that encourages me to find closure wherever possible, and it comes with learning to be more understanding and tolerant of others. Another option is prevent the need for closure in the first place, but that’s not always possible, and something that Old and Ancient Souls prefer to do if they can.