Guidance for Guides

I’m not comfortable with calling myself a Guide (and doubt I ever will be), but I guess it’s what I do subconsciously with those that cross my path. Now some people have this preconception that Guides know it all, and that nothing can touch them, but it’s not true. At times a Guide needs guidance on how to guide, but whom can they ask especially when they face frustrating situations?  They could try their Guides, but often they must figure it out themselves, and that is no easy task. Another misconception is that Guides will solve everything and sort things out—again that is not quite true. The role of a Guide is just that, to guide and assist you on the path, but not to tell you what to do if you take a wrong turning or if you don’t know which path to take. They can listen, make suggestions through asking you questions (therefore you will have answered the question yourself inadvertently), but they cannot interfere directly. This is because they will negate the impact of the Soul Lesson being learned, and in turn they will receive a reprimand like a slap on the wrist if they do. I’ve had a few slaps on the wrist and I know when to stop or hold back. However, charges rarely understand that, and I know that they won’t so I don’t try to explain it to them and they end up getting angry at me, which isn’t so great.

I’ve always loved books and one of my favorite things to do is browse second hand bookstores or goodwill shops for books. Sometimes I find some old editions, or books I have been meaning to read but never got around to. In the last week or so a few have crossed my path. In truth I was looking for Mrs Dalloway by Virginia Woolf, but a copy never surfaced. Instead I got three books for £1 which included ‘The Girl on the Train’ which was adapted in to a film I haven’t gotten around to watching, a John Grisham novel, and there were a few books by Paul Coelho. It was a trilogy made up of ‘By the River Piedra I sat Down and Wept’, ‘Veronica Decides to die’, and ‘The Devil and Miss Prym’. I was hoping to chance upon a copy of ‘The Alchemist’ in all honesty as the one I read decades ago had been a copy that had been lent to me. I also make it a habit also of not reading reviews, but to pick books based on instinct, plus I hadn’t heard of any of these books. I picked them all up, glanced at the précis and then put them all back. At first I was going to go for the first book as that makes sense, but thought it best to read the back for all of them to be fair. I’ve never been a fan of any work that has ‘devil’ in the title ever since my mother read bible stories of the devil to me as a child, so I put that back immediately. However, something drew me back to it, and as my shopping bags were heavy and it was hot, I made a snap decision to pay and get out of the store.

The books lay in a corner for a couple of weeks, and then while I was buying a charity birthday card I chanced upon ‘The Alchemist’ and was now ready to read ‘The Devil and Miss Prym’. I had no idea what the book was about and read it blind. It answered a few of the questions that had been circulating in my mind for a while, and also gave me small comfort in confirming that Guides and Angels can make mistakes, for all we can do is guide, and if the charge can’t hear or misinterprets something then we can feel as if we failed them. The themes revolve around choices and that we all have good and evil within us, but must recognize each and take control. In Bertha I saw someone who had faith, and even in the end she hoped that it would save her somehow, and it did, but not how she had hoped. You see, people may get tempted and as a Guide you cannot judge, but must allow them to see through the consequences of their actions. Naturally you want to yell at them and tell them they are harming themselves and doing the wrong thing, but it doesn’t help them as that is how they will learn.

Guidance comes to Guides when they need it, because they do need support. In addition more of my predictions have come to fruition which scares me somewhat because it makes it difficult for me to support things that I know will cause pain. However, I know I must and that is one of the burdens a Guide must live with. Since childhood I have been accused of being emotionless and I am. I have empathy, but it is logical empathy rather than emotional empathy. Is there a difference? There is, but if I need to explain it then you are still learning what the differences are and will let you find your own way to determine which is which.

It also reminded me that people will create reasons for their actions even when they know they are wrong. At first I thought I was just being too moralistic, but no, there is right and wrong, just as there is good and evil and humans are not perfect. We see temptation, but we can resist, and even if we succumb it’s never too late to stop and change our minds. The anti-heroine, Miss Prym does just that, and while she attempts to justify her thoughts and actions, we witness the very human struggle to do the right thing, but also to survive. The book crossed my path for a reason, and it reminded me that we all have choices, and that we all make mistakes too—Guides included, and that it’s okay. For no matter how good you think or feel you are, temptation (often disguised as the easy way or brushed off as no one will find out) will lurk in the background and whisper in your ear. You can ignore it, but it’s something you must learn to do, and people get confused with this and assume it’s a Guide validating an action. Guides never tell you what to do, but merely make suggestions in response to answers you give.

I’ve also had some rather direct messages in my dreams, so I suspect an old Guide (and friend) of mine is making a comeback to help me out, however, he is very cryptic (it took a year for some messages to make sense) so I will let you know when I decipher them. Guidance does come, but you still need to figure it out! The life of a Guide can be frustrating, deciphering whether messages are personal or in relation to charges. No matter how experienced you are, you still have to rely on instincts.

The Emptiness Within And Enduring Triviality

There are some of us that feel an emptiness inside at times, and we search for some meaning or purpose, to life and what surrounds us. We want to know why certain things are so, or why isn’t life fairer. I know it sounds a bit heavy, but some people have jobs to go to, or family to look after, and they don’t think about the meaning of life because they are distracted or have no time. Do we even really need to think about it, or just live it? For some it’s not important and they carry on and seek a balance of pleasure, with paying the bills; that’s life for a huge sector of society, but not for all. Yes, it maybe easier not to think about it, but that doesn’t mean that the questions will stop being asked.

While we may question the purpose of our existence, I don’t rely on God for an explanation, but look at what I wish to achieve in this incarnation. It may sound a little strange not to ask God or a Guide for an answer, but they are not supposed to give us answers, because we need to figure out that part ourselves. We don’t need things to be explained, for if we did, what lessons have we learned? I reflect upon my own incarnation thus far, and I look at the emptiness within. Others may say we should look for gratitude, and look at what we were gifted with, yet I am skeptical of this notion. Are they things that the physical realm considers gifts?

Some may say they are gifted with good health, but that is actually predetermined to an extent, and controllable on the physical plane. Souls maybe born with a disability for a reason, to help them or those around them to learn lessons. Then people can take responsibility to take care of their health, or those who are in good health may have genes that counteract that. What about those born with good looks or financial stability? Again, these are predetermined before an incarnation, so are they gifts when they were already planned? Maybe some spiritual folks will say the love of their family is a gift, but can you measure love, and can you control those around you to love you without manipulation or unconditionally? Love like trust and respect and earned and cannot be bought with actions or material objects. People try, but and it may work for a short period of time, but it’s a case of quid pro quo rather than a conscious action in most cases.

I asked myself the question, “What have I been gifted with?” and to be honest I struggled with a rational answer. In the end it has nothing to do with anything my parents have provided, or anything I have actually done. My gifts are my Soul, my brain, and my morals and ethics. None of these are things that can be bought or transferred, and are what I arrived on this earth with. I value these things more so as I see society crumbling and people around me saying and doing meaningless things, and focusing on petty matters. To them it obviously isn’t meaningless right now, but once they have transitioned they will see how trivial it all was, yet my morals, and ethics will remain with my Soul eternally.

Trivial matters govern the lives of mainly younger souls, the retired, the bored housewife, and the rich whose lives revolve around shopping, eating out and taking vacations. They pick at small matters that only concern them and in fact do no harm, and it’s this wasted energy in the Universe that is defining society and how it functions. Having to deal with these tiring Souls who are petty can be hard work mentally. In the physical realm I wasn’t gifted with much, but had the basics. Most people (including my immediate family) are young souls, and perhaps my role is to help them to learn, because I have been the anchor for all of them since I was a toddler. The spiritual side of me wants to see this as fulfilling, but if I am being honest it’s tiring, mainly unappreciated, and frustrating. It’s a little like an employee who don’t like their bosses but who are stuck with them and put up with it. I’m also going to be honest in that I don’t actually like any of my family, yet I tolerate them and feel responsible for them. There are moments that I stop and let them fall, but then I have to pick up the pieces and so I create more work for myself. That is my emptiness within—that what I do for others, they will not understand or see it.

Being an Old or Ancient Soul is lonely because no one can truly see what really matters, and why I do prefer to be alone to find some solace and balance in knowing what I do is for the bigger picture. An Ancient Soul sees darkness, although they are not attracted to it, at times it can balance things and ground them so they see the reality of what is really around them. In other words, it puts things into perspective, that what many people (not Souls) focus on is meaningless in the long term, and what they don’t focus on could be meaningful in the long term.

For example, people focus on what they look like and while looking clean and tidy is necessary, I’m talking about plastic surgery and the bikini body obsessions that let’s face it when you are dead and buried really isn’t going to matter. Even in a subsequent incarnation it won’t matter because you will have a different body and appearance. Maybe they focus on say being frugal? One hears of people dying and leaving millions while they made do with their living standards or ate frugally. Again, what is the point, while one doesn’t encourage extravagance, what is the point of eating cheap unhealthy food and leaving money to the taxman and to charity? It’s a choice, but is it wise one? Learning to be frugal is necessary for some people, but it does boil down to being controlled by the material and allowing it to define your choices.

Ironically, what people choose not to focus on because they don’t see any immediate benefit is what could help them to grow. An example is learning to be humble; now often there is a choice to be humble, ignorant, or arrogant in a given situation. Many will subconsciously pick the most advantageous option, which may not always be the best in the long term. People don’t usually stop to think about the long-term implications, but a Soul that has awakened can see the relevance.

There is always the easy option, the right thing to do, or the option that provides benefits. At times that can mean missing out on physical realm things, or having those around you criticizing or shunning you. Some won’t understand, because they feel their choice is better. Even if you try to explain it to them, they won’t always listen, but remember, you don’t have to justify your own actions. For many, they cannot see the bigger picture right now, but when they transition they will be reminded of the options they had, and the real reasons for their choice. One thing I will tell you is that choosing to do the right and moral thing is something that will remain with the Soul eternally, but to get to that stage some errors will be made, for that is how one learns.

I hope you can see that much of what society focuses on isn’t conducive to Soul Growth, or that less emphasis is put upon things that actually do matter. I see so much pettiness around me when it really doesn’t matter—if it doesn’t harm or affect another, then it shouldn’t matter. It’s hard to ignore and endure at times when it’s repetitive. Maybe it’s about control? However control is about ego when it concerns others. As for my own immediate family, they are uninspiring young souls that all seek control of others. I let them think that for an easier time, but every now and then I put the brakes on and it shocks them. I will endure my mother’s pettiness as I have done my entire life (there was a spell of not seeing or speaking for a decade or so for my own sanity), tolerate my father’s frugal nature despite the fact he knows he can’t take his money with him and in the space of two years he has nearly died in hospital, and my brother’s arrogance in that he blames someone or something else for anything that goes wrong. I accept this, but I don’t find it useful to me, but I cannot change the vision of those who are blind to what they need to learn and focus on.

I try to think what do I gain from this spiritually—okay, my tolerance and patience levels have been tested to the limit, and I can see that some Souls simply cannot learn even with the best Guides and Mentors around them. I have learned that the Soul must want to learn before they can be taught, and be ready. I have little more to learn from them, yet they have more to learn from me and it’s hard work. I question if I must stay to guide those who cannot see what they need to in order to grow. It’s not looking as if it’s a great deal for me; however, the contracts will end when one side will transition (it’s either me or them).

A teacher gains fulfillment from the success of their students, or that they have been able to help. When that doesn’t happen, it can seem like a failure, but can a teacher be responsible for a student that doesn’t wish to learn? That is my emptiness within, and my struggle to maintain my morals, ethics, and integrity in a realm where many cannot see the long-term benefits. For many they want to know, “What’s in it for me?” or they aren’t interested. This is why Old and Ancient Souls prefer not to reincarnate; for them the emptiness and loneliness can feel like failure. Trying to see a lack of success not as a failure isn’t easy, and that is another lesson I am learning—that my existence is also for others, and while I must endure and tolerate a lonely emptiness within, that is one of my Soul Purposes. I will openly admit I yearn for more inspiring Souls around me, and that financial stability would make a small difference, yet I also know my time here is transient and it won’t matter soon. An incarnation can be an endurance test for Ancient Souls, and so I will indulge in some familiar old texts that help fill the emptiness.

When You Know The End Draws Near

Some call it pessimism, but often we know something is coming to an end, whether it’s a relationship or a job. You might get an uneasy feeling, or you hope that the old days return, but they never do. Calling time on something, quitting, or ending a relationship is never easy, but it’s one of those things we have to learn to cope with in life.

The first time you end a relationship be a friend or lover is always hard—sometimes it’s temporary, and other times it’s a relief to end something that may have become harmful and destructive. Finding the courage to do so can lead to procrastination, or maybe a reason that is justified?

I’ve resigned from several jobs, and the first was the hardest, but after that it got easier. I wrote the letter and rewrote it; then all the manager did was file it and started looking for a replacement. That made my subsequent letters easier to write. A job is no longer for life, so I always take note of notice periods on contracts, and if you really hate going into work each day, then you have to rethink your priorities.

Ending friendships is harder, and I’ve only done it when people have falsely accused me of something. That’s something I won’t tolerate; a couple then sent messages to apologize, but it was never the same and I learned when it comes to an end that is it. I gave one friend a second chance after she sent me letters of apology, but what she did always created a barrier and the friendship drifted apart naturally.

Romantic relationships are tough because of the emotions and the dreaded task of splitting things, and then you find out who your friends really are. Often the relationship can yo-yo, and there’s a second and even a third chance, but once you get past that stage, it’s more or less over. While you need to work at relationships, sometimes they are destined to fail, but the lesson learned is that it’s not the right kind of relationship for you. If you find yourself avoiding your partner, not looking forward to being with them, or you would rather go for a run in the rain, then the end is nigh…

I’m also a member of some online groups, and to end that relationship (rather than to take a break) needs some justification. A forum I have been on for several years has changed in the last couple of years, as in the members weren’t as nice or interesting, the admins have power trips, and the friends I had made had either terminated their membership or got banned by over zealous admins. I did manage to remain in contact with a few via email and social media, but I finally realized after the last couple of years, the group no longer was positive, but had a negative effect. It’s sad, because I had hoped it would change, and I mentioned numerous times I was on the verge of leaving, and now that time has come. The final straw was reading a post where someone claimed they were tired of being right all of the time, and convinced themselves no one replied to their posts because they were so accurate, there could be no response. I did think it was a joke, but it wasn’t. Maybe I don’t need them, or that my words fall on deaf ears. Either way, it’s like the UK and Brexit—when you choose to leave, end it and don’t look back, but remain on good terms.

Learning to end things and to deal with closure takes time—quite a lot of it, and it’s a process. Closing doors can bring relief or sadness, but there is always a reason why things must end, but we just never know fully why. The important thing to note is that if you sense the end of something to accept it and not to fight it, because that’s when it hurts and you make it harder for yourself.  Memories can’t be erased, but we can choose to recall them in the light we wish. While the group I am choosing to distance myself from will continue, I will visit from time to time, but as a visitor only, and not as a member because I no longer identify with the principles that they represent. Perhaps it’s a new phase for me?

 

Why Do Souls Suffer in Silence?

Throughout my life, I’ve never met anyone that has not said they have suffered from something, which makes me question why does suffering exist? It may seem more philosophical than spiritual, but is subjective according to individual experiences and expectations. However, many ask why do we suffer? Often it is out of fear, but also people feel they are suffering and are thus victims when maybe they were expecting too much, or were unaware that their situation wasn’t that bad?

The question is if a Soul is suffering, then why can’t they do anything about it? Perhaps they should gain courage to speak up, or give up something in order to change their path? You can’t have everything, and sometimes one must sacrifice something. For example, if a a partner in a relationship is suffering due to verbal abuse, then the immediate question is why don’t they leave? Other factors come into play such as children, finances, and security, but if none of those are applicable, then what is stopping a Soul from ending what they perceive as suffering? When people say they are suffering in their job, because they hate it, then they do have a choice to leave. Some won’t because of finances, and others can’t because they can’t get another job. Often the Soul has choices—not always great ones, but they are options nonetheless if they choose to see them.

I have been in both situations, and at times suffered in silence because I thought it wasn’t that bad or that things would get better. They often don’t, although you may try to convince yourself they will. In previous relationships I have kept quiet, and suffered only a couple of times, but decided I should see whether it would get better. The problem is in relationships the other party can make you feel guilty, and remaining objective can be hard when it’s the closest person to you. Very often partners get brainwashed, and once free, they chide themselves for not leaving sooner. That’s why I always recommend people to keep friendships, as they can be the voice of reason.

In terms of jobs, many of the workforce silently suffer and yearn to do something else for a living. Do factory workers and cleaners really enjoy their jobs, or are they convenient, or a means to an end? For those who love and enjoy their work, they are blessed, but many are content or tolerate their working environment. Some however do suffer, and they do it for money alone. When that happens, it takes courage to give up a well-paid job to have mental freedom, and I can say it’s worth it.

Souls suffer in silence and maintain the status quo, but that means they will be stuck in a rut and often trapped in their own cage. No one should be afraid to voice their genuine concerns (notice, I don’t think constant whining on small matters is considered suffering, although in the minds of some it is), but they do out of fear of the repercussions, or what others will think of them. In some ways that creates and prolongs any suffering that has arisen.

I suffered at the hands of bullies as a young child, and there was no one to come to my rescue—not even my brother who was at the same school and who watched me being bullied. If I told the teachers, then they would increase the bullying, so what could I do? They would steal my snacks at break time each day and grab them out of my hands, then taunt me, and push me over while calling me names each day. Then one day, in the playground I had my chocolate bar in my hand and saw the gang approaching. I really wanted my chocolate bar, and thought what more can they do to me? So I gobbled it down in front of them, and told them they were too late. I honestly thought they would try to beat me up (I was about 8 or 9), but they stood there in shock that I stood up to them, and walked away. The bullying didn’t stop completely after that, but they backed off and never tried to get my chocolate bars again.

When we suffer we learn harsh and painful lessons, but it should also help us to learn empathy, so if we see others in a similar plight we are able to help them. Those who do suffer seek help, and those who have been through similar situations will recognize a silent cry for help. I find being a good listener without judging is helpful, because a Soul that is suffering must choose their own path; they should try and accept what has happened, look at what has been learned, and then to use that knowledge to help others and not to repeat the same scenarios. Instead some spend time and energy trying to understand why it happened (you will never find a definitive answer, only possible theories), wonder whether they were they to blame, and ask why did they deserve it, or think that it’s not fair that they had to suffer compared to others.

Perhaps a past life karmic debt has been played out, or the Soul had volunteered for an altruistic incarnation? These are theories, and while some people may mock them, there is no evidence or reason why some suffer more than others. Rather than to spend time and anger feeling that life has dealt you a poor hand, isn’t it better to try and change things to be the best they can in the circumstances? I’ve heard people say they are suffering, where really they just aren’t getting things their own way. Suffering is when you are harmed in circumstances that are beyond your control, so think about whether you are really suffering, or are you containing that suffering with excuses?

If you hate your job, boss, co-workers, then leave once you hand in your notice. Money isn’t everything, and you have a choice, but are you brave enough to take it? In fractured relationships, you have to look at what is more important—the house, what people think, money, or your sanity? There is no amount of money that can buy you peace of mind, but you must choose between material security, and suffering. Again, there is a choice; a Soul has choices, even if they can’t see them or consider them viable choices.

True suffering comes from sacrifices, but it need not be in silence. Spiritually, suffering is a means to help Souls to learn and evolve. Now this may not help those who are suffering or be of much comfort, but that’s why it exists. Souls should try not to blame others, but accept the lessons learned, otherwise they will repeat the lessons again, and no one wants to go through that if they can help it. Maybe the lesson is to learn forgiveness, tolerance, or to learn how and when to trust others—there are a multitude of lessons that involve suffering, including losing someone you love. We can help others suffer less by considering others in our actions, and to have empathy for others. That is another lesson all Souls learn. Often suffering is eased with a kind word or act, or when someone will listen without judgment, for we all make mistakes—humans were not created to be perfect.

Interpretations And Their Purpose

Being a Sensitive or Psychic isn’t a science, therefore, nothing is concrete, and because of this people tend dismiss predictions as coincidences and those who warn as charlatans. It’s for that reason that I have never charged for any advice or guidance, and so people can’t claim I am out to make money or rip people off. If anything it costs me my own time and money, and I feel that gives me the right to pick and choose whom I wish to assist or read for.

So what happens when a prediction doesn’t come to fruition or if you may have misinterpreted it? The point is, a Sensitive can only see the possibilities at the given time, and if factors occurred that created more probable options then they would not yet have existed. For instance, if someone’s actions and choices changed the possible outcomes, then new paths are created. Predictions and premonitions do not exist to make life easier, but to help others to follow the best path if they are straying. That’s why some people never need the advice of a Sensitive, because they have not strayed, and are on the correct path.

Like many, I predicted Hillary Clinton would win the US Presidential Election, so how did we get it wrong or did we? She did win the popular vote by 3 million, and I can hear others say that doesn’t count and it’s a cop out, and I for one never saw the point of the popular vote except as a means to see who really was the favorite. However, since the revelations of a foreign interference in the election by official bodies, perhaps she did win, but there is no legislation being brought forward to challenge it. It made me wonder how or why things changed, and if we look at the actions of some key players, we can see there were opportunities to halt or expose the interference, but they failed to materialize. Is it a case of individuals being tested to see if they made the right choices (Comey and members of Congress)? It’s a big price to pay when the decisions and actions of a few affect the lives of many. Did Comey’s last minute, sudden, and unfounded decision to reopen a closed case alter the possible outcomes, and what would have happened if he had left things as they were?

Interpretations are for guidance at the current time only, and like time, doesn’t stand still. What lies ahead? Are we heading for World War III? During World War II, people got used to hiding out in bunkers and air raid shelters, and today we have heavily armed police and security in buildings and on the streets to avert terrorist attacks. People carry on with their lives, but the reality is that the world is at war already, but the powers involved are playing it down. While one never wishes to be pessimistic, the honest truth is that there is a great deal of mistrust in humanity, and Donald Trump may have dishonestly won the election. If that is the case, it is up to Congress to rectify it, but will they? That is their job, but again there is corruption at the highest level, so whom can you trust? I don’t think you need to be psychic to know that society in the USA is going to remain divided, and pushed further apart despite calls for unity. Maybe The Powers That Be have allowed this to occur so that people can see the consequences of their actions or inactions?

One thing I sense is that US politics will get increasingly protracted and begin to alienate themselves from other Western countries. Alliances will be weakened, and the social and cultural aspects of America will become fractured where racism and discrimination will become rife, and worryingly ‘normal’. People who thought they would get jobs will suffer more than before as interest rates rise, but no new jobs will materialize and they can no longer blame immigrants, but themselves for supporting Trump. They will feel foolish at being taken in at his rhetoric, and hopefully learn. That is one of their lessons.

In Europe, countries will be wary of Russia, and the EU will not make Brexit easy for the UK and this will create more financial instability in the region due to this acrimonious split. The EU will make it as difficult as possible, knowing it will affect the economy, but they don’t care and want the UK to suffer. This will lead to more discontentment as other countries reconsider the value of the EU. In some ways people were glad 2016 was over, but that was just the start of the shift and 2017 is going to be even rougher. Sorry, but the best place is to be on a desert island away from it all, no wonder a record number of celebrities decided to leave in 2016.

How do I interpret the spiritual outcome of events? Key players had choices, and opportunities to question whether there was foul play in the US election. They made their choices (whether that was positive or negative for their own goals is for their consciences to decide), and perhaps it was a necessary step for those involved to learn to make the moral or selfish choice. Those who believed Trump’s rhetoric and voted for selfish reasons will learn from their mistakes, and those who could have done ‘something’ (such as those involved in a fraud case could have chosen not to settle, or to allow a recount of votes) to rectify the situation, but chose an easier path will also be accountable through Karma. In some ways this reminds us that we are connected on a human level, as each choice an individual makes for selfish reasons can affect others inadvertently. I’m often accused of being too serious, but hey, that’s what Ancient Souls are like. You can’t help it when you see Souls making the same mistakes over and over again and not get frustrated. It’s clear humanity is not learning from history, and that is a lesson it is currently learning all over again.