Can You Fire A Guide Or Cut Ties With Spirit?

While many people hanker or look for signs and messages from Spirit—some read too much into them, and there are the few that wish to ignore the signs. You may ask is that spiritual, and the answer would be ‘yes’ in my opinion, because we all have free will to choose what to do with a message. Signs occur when we need them; either Spirit or a Guide will strategically use them when a Soul veers off course, or the Soul will have planted them before the incarnation in the knowledge that they knew they might require some nudges and triggers. Naturally when they occur the Soul should feel relieved and make sense of what the signs mean. However, there will be those rare times when a Soul just wants to ignore the signs because they have temporarily lost faith in them, or they need a break because they are being overwhelmed. You see when a sign appears, it should encourage, but it can also have an adverse effect and demotivate a Soul.

Not all angel numbers will result in something exceptional, symbols may give hope, but again what if nothing transpires? Are people clutching at straws or expecting too much? This morning I couldn’t sleep and tossed and turned. I had no idea what time it was and reached for my phone, which is usually off, but it was on and it was 4:44. Now some would rejoice at seeing one of the most transformative angel numbers, yet I groaned. I was weary, and also tired of seeing numbers that may give me false hope. I later realized it was a sign that my subsequent visions would be important, and I won’t go into detail, but they weren’t sweet or pleasant dreams. I woke up exhausted and disturbed, so did I really want to see that 4:44 to advise me of the crucial messages, or would it have been better if I hadn’t see the signs?

There are things we can’t avoid, and free will cannot prevent messages from being sent. Unlike an email or letter on the physical plane that you can choose to open, you can’t choose not to hear or see a message from Spirit, although you maybe oblivious to it or choose to consciously ignore it. Some may say you can block messages, and you can block contact from spirits because they need permission to communicate with you. However, is that the same for Spirit and your Guides where you have given them permission to communicate with you eternally before you incarnate? Should you block them, and can you?

It’s a tough question to answer with no valid evidence to back it up. It’s like firing a Guide or choosing to cut ties with Spirit, and is that even wise to consider? I’ve read of people falling out with their Guides or wanting to replace them, but think about it—what do they gain, surely they are acting in your best interests whether you believe it or not. Often it’s because a Guide tells them what they don’t wish to hear, or cannot help them in their desired choices because it is not their path. That is why the Law of Attraction is flawed, and something I caution against as it enables one to believe they can alter Fate and predestined events. If Souls had the choice to dismiss Guides, then it would create an unstable spiritual vortex, because as we can see on the physical plane, Souls can make poor and prejudiced decisions.

In the grand scheme of things, the relationship between a Soul and a Guide can take time to nurture, especially for younger souls. Like most things, one should be patient and don’t forget Guides are chosen with consent before an incarnation, so it isn’t a random act, but one that was planned and agreed. Guides convey messages in different ways and that is why only that Soul will know whether it is a message from them. It would be unwise and arrogant to demand an alternative Guide without considering why they have opted for certain paths. They may also be a Guide in training, although they usually are allocated shorter phases and work under supervision. It’s a little like a learner driver, you should give them a chance because one day that maybe you.

Guides do step back, and many are there only for a phase or a specific event and will then go. As for Spirit, I don’t believe you can cut ties, but if you don’t wish to hear what they have to say, then they will remain quiet for a period in the background until you are ready to listen again. When you reach a level where you can can hear and see signs without hesitation and know immediately what they mean, it can be a slightly different situation depending on what is happening in your incarnation. Sometimes there are warnings, other times there are messages of encouragement, or ones of validation. Interpreting them and making them applicable comes with experience and that is something you cannot be taught. You may read books, listen to lectures, but it’s that innate connection where the unspoken conveys something only that Soul will understand if they are open to it. That does become an issue if the Soul is reluctant to accept the message. You can ignore a message, and you have that free will, but you cannot unknow what you consciously knew.

Maybe you choose not to act on it, so will those messages continue or will Spirit allow you to decide what to do with the message? It’s like opening an email, reading it and not responding to it until you are ready, maybe you star or flag it for later, or choose to delete it? If you choose to delete, do you leave it there to come back to, or do you empty the trash immediately? Then you must ask why? Is it something you don’t want to address, or that you are so tired of the messages that you need to delete them to regain some kind of control? None of the options are wrong, because we should have that freedom to decide. How many times have you gone to the delete folder and retrieved something? With a message, can you truly erase it from your memory, or do you archive it so far back and bury it?

I feel the best way to address this is to tell your Guides that you need a break, or that you don’t have the energy to focus on other things right now. The problem is that physical realm issues appear more urgent such as appointments, paying the bills on time, or meeting a deadline. These all take up time and energy and leaves little left for any spiritual work or thought. Balancing an incarnation in both realms is much harder than most imagine; my inbox here on the physical realm is full of flags and stars, and my spiritual inbox has been overflowing for quite some time. I have had no choice but to delete a few messages, and archive some, and while new ones keep surfacing, yes I wish I could ignore some of them, but sadly I know I can’t. I write this with a deep sigh, and I know I shouldn’t.

My Guides have given me short breaks, and I had asked them before I incarnated to step back, hence when I do receive messages and signs I know they must be pertinent and urgent. It also means that I do get limited support because that’s what I requested. One should never rely too heavily on messages and signs, and in that I mean those who make decisions based purely on what they wish to interpret. Messages and signs are there to make us think, not only about what we choose to do, but also how we evolve and perceive all that is around us. While at times we may feel a need to disconnect, other times it happens naturally. However, no Soul is ever truly disconnected because a connection will always exist, even if it is faint and in the distance.

 

Why Guides And Lightworkers Have Difficult Incarnations

One would expect an Old Soul to have an easier time during an incarnation—after all they’ve been through the worst already? That’s not always the case, because on the physical realm, older people slow down and retire, whereas in the Spiritual Realm the Old Souls recently have had more work to do; train and mentor new Guides, and also to heal and Guide their own charges. It can make for a fraught incarnation, while some opt to wind down and pass on any guiding roles. Just because they can and have the capacity to do so doesn’t mean they have to guide, however, some reluctantly do so when they witness the suffering and pain of others.

This doesn’t mean all Guides and Lightworkers will have difficult incarnations, or that those with difficult incarnations are Guides or Lightworkers. Then you ask difficult in relation to what? One cannot judge against their peers as each Soul irrespective of physical age is at a different level. I define a difficult incarnation when the Soul lacks a certain amount of free will and choices on their desired path due to their Soul Purpose of assisting others. Some can see it as a compromised situation, and while many Lightworkers accept this as part of the job it doesn’t make the incarnation easier when they are bombarded with negativity, and their paths get stalled. These contribute to a difficult incarnation, which is separate from the Soul Blueprint plans where a Soul plans their path and possibilities.

Some Lightworkers find it too much and reject their role, or turn a blind eye to events and that is their free will. In fact I think it is healthy as the days of martyrdom are relegated to history books. There has to be some balance as sacrifice is not lightworking, and when a charge or situation affects the incarnation of the Lightworker then they should be free to regain control of their incarnation. Some Lightworkers are very determined and will sacrifice their own journey to aid others, but this may come at a heavy price. While admirable and it is indeed their agreed vocation, some Souls rely and expect too much from Lightworkers, thus negating the purpose of the assistance given.

Guides and Lightworkers also may experience difficult incarnations because they are given knowledge and foresight, and when the charge opts not to follow the advice given, it is hard to watch them fall. I know many will say that the Lightworker can opt to intervene, but overstepping the agreed spiritual boundaries results in conflicts for the Lightworker as it prevents the Soul of the charge from learning. At times, pain is necessary as a tool. In my own experience where I did intervene, my own path was stalled and obstacles arose as a sign to tell me to stop. By forcing me to use my energies to focus on my own path, it made me see that preventing my charge from falling didn’t help, as they had come to expect my help.

Others may say it’s cruel for a Lightworker to choose whom to help and when, but this is not governed solely by their will, but that of the Souls’ other Guides. It’s like a teacher giving their pupils the answers to an upcoming exam because they want them all to pass and not to fail. The pupils won’t learn as much, although the teacher wishes to help them progress and none of them to have to experience the pain of failure. A Lightworker must stick to their role and no more even if the intent is good. That makes it hard when a charge may turn on them, or painful in watching a charge suffer. I had to do this, but I had no choice and when the charge asked for an easy way out again, I said I could not help. I could have, but I had learned my lesson, and saw that the charge needed to learn to let go of their pride, which was holding them back.

An incarnation for a Guide or Lightworkers can be difficult and rewarding, and while they may have agreed to these tasks before incarnating, knowing doesn’t make it easier, but explains why their incarnations won’t always go to plan. Mature Souls who are learning to be Lightworkers may experience the most conflict, where an incarnation can be made up of demanding charges, karmic debt, and achieving their own goals. It’s no wonder some struggle and have difficult incarnations where there are multiple blocks on their own path. Plans can, do, and will change, and Old Souls are used to this, but prefer them to be less rocky, which is why many prefer to be hermits and keep their distance with charges, or are less emotionally attached.

As for me, I choose my charges with care, and let them go when I feel they have become dependent—not forever or to teach them a lesson (as some may think), but to help them to learn to use the skills and knowledge I have given them. That’s my job, to hold their hand, but then to let them learn to walk alone. I also know some may resent me for abandoning them (but won’t see it that way), but in fact I was allowing them to grow, and they can’t if they know they can come running back to me for help without trying first.

©2016. S.T. Alvyn.

Spiritual Patience

To be honest, it can be frustrating at times even for the more spiritually experienced folks when it comes to patience, and when no amount of motivational chants or manifestation affirmations make any difference (some may convince themselves of a slight difference, but can one ever be certain?). There is patience on the physical realm where we are reliant on what happens to us, and our choices in synch with external players, and then there is the unseen spiritual patience we experience from our Guides, and The Powers That Be. Neither allows us much if any control, but we can control how we react or how we perceive things. Some people are born with a laid back nature—a c’est la vie attitude and I feel that is a gift in many ways, as these people tend not to worry so often, or get frustrated when plans don’t work out, and don’t spend sleepless nights racking their brains trying to figure out what went wrong when maybe nothing did. It can simply be a matter of that’s how life works, but should we accept that?

In many respects we should if there were no other options, or it was the best choice at the time, but what about spiritual patience? Often interactions with those in the Spiritual Realm are fragmented, vague, and irregular. Even those who claim to channel at will I treat with skepticism because Guides and spirits do not respond on demand—in times of need they may, but not on request all of the time. That’s when you do need to be patient. Perhaps they have remained quiet because can’t interfere, or wish to prejudice the choices the Soul needs to make in order to learn? However, how long can one wait to discover why something happened, or to wait until some signs point in another direction? Months, or years even, and should you wait or not?

I don’t have the answers, for each of us has different levels of patience and expectations, but I can offer some personal insight. On a spiritual level, patience is hard because the ideal is to put your faith and trust into those unseen powers, but when you wait and nothing happens, what then? That’s when faith can and does waver. People begin to either create a reality based around what hasn’t or has happened, or get angry and frustrated and thus feel lost and abandoned spiritually. I feel many have experienced the latter, and either some event eventually occurs which restores some faith, or people depart from the spiritual path. I can’t say I blame them as I have friends that have been in that situation, and it’s not giving up or losing faith—it’s more the result of being left in a confused state. They want to believe and do, but when there is no concrete evidence in their own lives it’s hard to maintain. It’s like a relationship that doesn’t work out, and you have to decide whether to carry on waiting to see what happens, or to move on.

While time may not be an issue on the Spiritual Realm, on the physical realm it can be, more so because humanity has created a society where success is based on time and age. Trying to reconcile the two realms can be difficult to accept, comprehend, and also to live with. By nature I have always been impatient, but I have learned during the course of my life thus far, it was mainly from not understanding that people have varying levels of abilities and perceptions, and fickle people can blow hot and cold in the same breath. Once you experience these people and know how to cope with them, tolerance and patience levels rise. However, there are those that simply won’t change, and I find it best to avoid them for the sake of  sanity no matter how strong or right you maybe.

Spiritually, I also find it’s very testing because a few years is a long time to wait for answers, or to be shown the right path in relation to the physical realm. What can you do? Ask more Angels, appeal to The Powers That Be, and then what? If there is still no response, do you wait patiently with faith (or is that blind faith?), and how long is too long to wait? How can you tell the difference between a wrong (or not so good) path when nothing happens as a sign, or that Spirit wishes you to wait until either a Soul Connection surfaces or a predestined event occurs? Only your Higher Self knows, but what if that link is weak or has been broken? I would like to trust in Spirit that other Guides, signs, or symbols will appear to help restore the wavering faith, because patience should not be taken for granted, especially spiritual patience. Others would say you shouldn’t wait for Spirit to act, and that is quite true because each Soul should be proactive on their path—incarnations are not for sitting back and seeing what happens, but more of a case accepting when things don’t go according to plan that there maybe a reason. However, when a Soul gets knocked back constantly, then maybe they need to stop and wait for a sign, because disappointments and knock backs create negativity, and also diminishes the Soul’s enthusiasm.

While on the physical realm we are indoctrinated into feeling and believing that time is important rather than results, hence why some spiritual folks (who are patient, and don’t seem to be in a hurry to achieve) are seen as airy fairy and unrealistic. How does one find a balance of both? Not everyone will agree that time is not a factor, especially those involved in business, or politics, so how does one live with these opposing factors? I do believe there must be a compromise on both realms, but as the physical realm has been increasing its use of time as a factor, it is up to the Spiritual Realm (who can see all sides) to help find that balance. That doesn’t mean they should help out on a whim because someone asks so that they can carry on and do other things—that is not the role of Spirit or the use of spiritual powers. It does mean when a Soul is waiting patiently and suffering because they want to have faith, that struggle doesn’t always make them stronger or reinforce their beliefs—it’s more of a relief than added faith when things do get resolved. Patience maybe a virtue, but it is also limited, and those on the spiritual and physical realms need to learn and be discerning with actions that will alter the course for others. Spirit; if you wait too long, then a Soul may get tired and lose faith, but if you act too hastily the Soul may not learn and use that assistance as a crutch.

One may consider my message to Spirit to be bold, but all on each and every realm and dimension, will find lessons can be learned. Guides have to learn, and those in the Spirit Realm must understand that Souls that suffer too much or for too long will lose faith, and that faith may never return. That in itself puts the Soul back a step, and in an incarnation one aims to progress and not regress. It’s like a parent or teacher that pushes a child too hard, that they actually push them away and deter them from the path they were on. This happened to me as a child where both parents and teachers pushed me towards education; I rebelled and opted for a short period of time against it. If they hadn’t pushed me, it’s possible my choices would have been very different. I chose another path due to frustration and a loss of control in my own life and choices.

My reason for writing this is for those who are sitting and waiting for spiritual messages or actions—you maybe waiting a long time, and during that period you may lose track of your path. Is this a test? I don’t like to feel that Souls are being tested, but while you may feel disheartened and also confused, maybe it’s a sign to rest and not be too anxious. A good way is to let your Higher Self and Guides know how you feel, and perhaps they can send reassuring signs? I admit I can be spiritually impatient, but I also know it doesn’t help speed up things, although sometimes I get subtle signs to keep me going. At times it’s still not enough, and I, like many would prefer clear decisive action.

I accept that patience is necessary, but if one is open and clear, waiting is much harder than when a Soul is blocked. One shouldn’t wait in vain, but maybe Spirit has other plans and if each time you try to do something you get pushed back it’s a sign perhaps that you need to wait just that bit longer? That maybe the case, but don’t be afraid to let Spirit know how you feel and if it is getting you down—it’s better said out aloud than to be bottled up and feeling frustrated and confused. Awakening isn’t easy, and learning to be spiritually patient is a trait Souls learn on all realms. When Spirit responds it’s wonderful, and when there is silence, that period of waiting can be lonely and dark, but know it’s not forever.

©2016. S. T. Alvyn.

Do Spiritual Mistakes Exist?

A mistake by definition is something that can be prevented, so theoretically yes, spiritual mistakes can occur. Souls all have choices, and Spirits, Guides, and The Powers That Be all can make choices—whether to help or to stand back. Many people debate the concept of choices and free will, but there is no such thing as unlimited choices, but choices within a given parameter. Imagine an all you can eat buffet; there are many choices, but you can only select from what is out on the table. You may want Mozzarella cheese, but the only cheeses available are Cheddar and Brie, so your choice is limited to what is actually there. This is the same when Souls have choices on their paths; each Soul is given a selected amount of options to choose from, thus one can choose a path that seems like a mistake, as it may not have been best choice from the selection.

What about mistakes for the incarnational plan? No plan can ever be perfect, if that was to be the case then we would not need Guides to aid us, or free will and choices would not exist. With plans there are always options, alternates, possibilities and probabilities. Therefore, nothing is ever etched in stone. I do wonder like many in hindsight, ‘What if?’ when I recall an event—could I have changed things, or would there have been a better outcome? Quite possibly, but also it could have been Fate.

Could I have made a better choice in regards to selecting my immediate physical realm family, location, and career? Perhaps so, but we can never fully predict the outcome, only the possibilities. Do I feel I made some idealistic choices? I would say yes, because you have to make the best of what you have chosen, and often you have to use theories or choose what seems to be the best option at the time. It’s not easy, but you can’t change certain things, but you can control how you view them and cope with them.

When we choose our incarnational paths from our Soul Blueprint, our options arise from a combination of factors; which other Souls are incarnating, where and what challenges they will face, and will they coincide with yours? Naturally some plans get abandoned (such as exit points), but that’s why spiritual errors do occur. Even Guides cannot make each event perfect; they can only work with what the Soul chooses, and are limited to how involved they can be. One must accept that a human incarnation will contain flaws, and errors, but that is part of the challenge—to work through them and cope, and other times to suffer and endure. With the existence of choices, errors and mistakes must exist by default, but as the Soul grows older, it learns to limit them and learns from them.

©2016. S.T. Alvyn.

Are We “Poor Players” On A Stage Called Earth?

William Shakespeare’s famous line from Macbeth has always resonated with me since I read the Scottish play at school.

“Life’s but a walking shadow, a poor player
That struts and frets his hour upon the stage
And then is heard no more…”

I recall my English teacher interpreting it to us and it made me think about life, and that yes, we are all shadows, then die. However, the part we can debate is whether we are mere actors on a stage called Earth—is a power or someone directing, or guiding us, or like a play, has everything been scripted already? One may improvise, but as any actor knows, if you go off script too often you get reigned in. What if the script doesn’t work out, then another replaces it, or if you have a poor director and everyone gets lost?

Many of us believe in freedom and that free will exists, but does it really? Societal rules that have been created are blindly followed without question, so we are all puppets, or actors being controlled either by the laws of society (go to college, get a job, get married, and then save for a pension) and guided by The Powers That Be. You may not want to believe in the laws of Fate or Destiny, and they can’t be explained, but they are a very possible theory. That doesn’t mean we should sit and wait to see what happens, but much depends on how much you decide to actively participate. Nothing will be perfect, as the outcome may have been predestined for a reason against all odds. When the outcome isn’t so pleasant we can question things as to why they had turned out so, but even when things are perfectly planned, the outcome can never be guaranteed.

No amount of wealth, personality, status, or education can predict an outcome. As ‘players’ on Earth we act out our scripted scenarios. Life isn’t a rehearsal though, but scenes can get repeated, or there maybe some heavy deviation from the script and other players either abandon the script or it gets rewritten. We, as Souls in a human form should accept that at times we are actors, that support others learning their lessons, or that our script has been written for a good reason (but we just don’t know those reasons and the outcome), and not get angry (or try not to) when things don’t go according to plan. I used to get frustrated when plans didn’t work out, even when there was no logical reason for them not to. Planning things down to the most meticulous detail doesn’t ensure perfection, although one can strive for it. Even then, consider that was the plan all along.

As Souls we used our free will to be incarnated for a reason, but that free will is curtailed on Earth with boundaries for reasons. Once you realize this then you may begin to see the reasons why more clearly, but if you are angry or frustrated they won’t be visible. It’s not easy to have blind acceptance, and I feel a small amount of skepticism is still healthy, because if you don’t question things, then you won’t find the answers you seek. Despite human nature yearning for control, humanity should realize there are greater powers out there that allow us limited control—we may not see them, but they exist like Mother Nature. We cannot control Nature, yet humans use their free will to destroy it and in turn Nature replies. One may deny this, but when scientists cannot explain natural disasters such as a tsunami, earthquakes, avalanches, or tornadoes (because not all things can be predicted or explained) then one can conclude that there are greater unexplained powers in the Universe that do control things, and there is nothing we can do except respect this fact, and that the human free will has boundaries. Each of us can plays a part, but when our script is finished, then we either write a new one, or opt to watch other players on the stage called Earth.

Do we ever know how the script ends or when the final curtain drops? Some scripts get rewritten as they go along, and others get culled. Spiritually we are still puppets, that enact what was planned, and our Guides act as Directors, but do we always listen to them or disagree?

©2016. S. T. Alvyn.