Guidance for Guides

I’m not comfortable with calling myself a Guide (and doubt I ever will be), but I guess it’s what I do subconsciously with those that cross my path. Now some people have this preconception that Guides know it all, and that nothing can touch them, but it’s not true. At times a Guide needs guidance on how to guide, but whom can they ask especially when they face frustrating situations?  They could try their Guides, but often they must figure it out themselves, and that is no easy task. Another misconception is that Guides will solve everything and sort things out—again that is not quite true. The role of a Guide is just that, to guide and assist you on the path, but not to tell you what to do if you take a wrong turning or if you don’t know which path to take. They can listen, make suggestions through asking you questions (therefore you will have answered the question yourself inadvertently), but they cannot interfere directly. This is because they will negate the impact of the Soul Lesson being learned, and in turn they will receive a reprimand like a slap on the wrist if they do. I’ve had a few slaps on the wrist and I know when to stop or hold back. However, charges rarely understand that, and I know that they won’t so I don’t try to explain it to them and they end up getting angry at me, which isn’t so great.

I’ve always loved books and one of my favorite things to do is browse second hand bookstores or goodwill shops for books. Sometimes I find some old editions, or books I have been meaning to read but never got around to. In the last week or so a few have crossed my path. In truth I was looking for Mrs Dalloway by Virginia Woolf, but a copy never surfaced. Instead I got three books for £1 which included ‘The Girl on the Train’ which was adapted in to a film I haven’t gotten around to watching, a John Grisham novel, and there were a few books by Paul Coelho. It was a trilogy made up of ‘By the River Piedra I sat Down and Wept’, ‘Veronica Decides to die’, and ‘The Devil and Miss Prym’. I was hoping to chance upon a copy of ‘The Alchemist’ in all honesty as the one I read decades ago had been a copy that had been lent to me. I also make it a habit also of not reading reviews, but to pick books based on instinct, plus I hadn’t heard of any of these books. I picked them all up, glanced at the précis and then put them all back. At first I was going to go for the first book as that makes sense, but thought it best to read the back for all of them to be fair. I’ve never been a fan of any work that has ‘devil’ in the title ever since my mother read bible stories of the devil to me as a child, so I put that back immediately. However, something drew me back to it, and as my shopping bags were heavy and it was hot, I made a snap decision to pay and get out of the store.

The books lay in a corner for a couple of weeks, and then while I was buying a charity birthday card I chanced upon ‘The Alchemist’ and was now ready to read ‘The Devil and Miss Prym’. I had no idea what the book was about and read it blind. It answered a few of the questions that had been circulating in my mind for a while, and also gave me small comfort in confirming that Guides and Angels can make mistakes, for all we can do is guide, and if the charge can’t hear or misinterprets something then we can feel as if we failed them. The themes revolve around choices and that we all have good and evil within us, but must recognize each and take control. In Bertha I saw someone who had faith, and even in the end she hoped that it would save her somehow, and it did, but not how she had hoped. You see, people may get tempted and as a Guide you cannot judge, but must allow them to see through the consequences of their actions. Naturally you want to yell at them and tell them they are harming themselves and doing the wrong thing, but it doesn’t help them as that is how they will learn.

Guidance comes to Guides when they need it, because they do need support. In addition more of my predictions have come to fruition which scares me somewhat because it makes it difficult for me to support things that I know will cause pain. However, I know I must and that is one of the burdens a Guide must live with. Since childhood I have been accused of being emotionless and I am. I have empathy, but it is logical empathy rather than emotional empathy. Is there a difference? There is, but if I need to explain it then you are still learning what the differences are and will let you find your own way to determine which is which.

It also reminded me that people will create reasons for their actions even when they know they are wrong. At first I thought I was just being too moralistic, but no, there is right and wrong, just as there is good and evil and humans are not perfect. We see temptation, but we can resist, and even if we succumb it’s never too late to stop and change our minds. The anti-heroine, Miss Prym does just that, and while she attempts to justify her thoughts and actions, we witness the very human struggle to do the right thing, but also to survive. The book crossed my path for a reason, and it reminded me that we all have choices, and that we all make mistakes too—Guides included, and that it’s okay. For no matter how good you think or feel you are, temptation (often disguised as the easy way or brushed off as no one will find out) will lurk in the background and whisper in your ear. You can ignore it, but it’s something you must learn to do, and people get confused with this and assume it’s a Guide validating an action. Guides never tell you what to do, but merely make suggestions in response to answers you give.

I’ve also had some rather direct messages in my dreams, so I suspect an old Guide (and friend) of mine is making a comeback to help me out, however, he is very cryptic (it took a year for some messages to make sense) so I will let you know when I decipher them. Guidance does come, but you still need to figure it out! The life of a Guide can be frustrating, deciphering whether messages are personal or in relation to charges. No matter how experienced you are, you still have to rely on instincts.

The Pain Of Soulmates And The Soul Group

I’ve recently finished reading Brida, by Paulo Coelho, and it was a timely reminder that people are often misguided in the myth that Soulmates only bring happiness and joy. I don’t believe in the concept of a single Soulmate, but that each Soul has several within the Soul Group, and that each one serves a different purpose. The novel follows the path of Brida, who is searching for her Soulmate and believes it will complete her and help her understand life. It also follows the thoughts of the Magus (one of her teachers) who is also in search of his Soulmate, and when he does find her, his lesson is to learn to let her go. This was a second chance for him; to learn from a mistake he made in his youth.

Why is it that society conditions us from a young age to find a Soulmate and to settle down? That people are conditioned into believing it is the key to happiness, and that it is an achievement? The truth is, the Soulmate concept is much more complex than settling down with a partner for life. There are so many myths as to what role a Soulmate should serve, but it’s not the rejoining of two parts of a Soul in my opinion, but is when a Soul that has been part of another Soul’s existence appears, and it feels as if they are a part of the Soul because it is so familiar. Soulmates often know how the other will feel and react, and that means that they know when they are happy (or what will make them happy) or are in pain, but also what can hurt them. In that respect it can be a dangerous power, because although we would like to think no Soulmate would deliberately wish to to harm another, it can happen subconsciously.

Many believe that love is the greatest force and power, which is why people spend money and time (on dating sites) in search of love and their Soulmate, but it’s not the answer. It can make you feel good about yourself for a while, but love isn’t consistent, and people fall in and out of love. People seem to have a need to be loved and wanted, but money can’t buy true love, although it can buy attention. People remain in relationships out of fear of being alone, or prefer a compromise where there is security; neither are based on love.

The novel deals with the issue of being in love with more than one person at a time—is that possible, and that more than one Soulmate will appear at the same time? The answer is ‘yes’ and it’s not easy to deal with. There is no easy answer—do you walk away from both, or pick the one that is practical? What I have learned is that if you love someone but your actions cause them pain, then you should let them go and walk away. In reality, it’s not easy though, but one can still love from afar. A Soulmate should still allow the other to choose their own path, even if it means loneliness and pain for the other. That is true love, and although it may seem cryptic, that’s because it’s a lesson that is so personal, one can only truly understand it when they have been faced with the situation.

I speak from experience; a Soulmate of mine would not let me go, yet he could not be with me and while he loved me, he was also inadvertently hurting me and holding back my path. I don’t feel he did it out of selfishness, and so I chose to walk away (a second time). By not letting me go, it prevented me from finding or acknowledging other Soulmates that may have crossed my path. I could not force him to be on the correct path, so I followed an alternate one of my own. Eventually he freed himself on his blocked path, and he later admitted he didn’t want to hurt me anymore than he may have done which is why he did not let me go. This was my second chance, and yet I chose to walk away again–the first time through a yearn for freedom, and the second, again for freedom of a different kind. The pull of the presence of a Soulmate can be compelling and addictive, and in that respect is a dangerous kind of power.

Soulmates can bring about great happiness and the darkest pain at the same time. Can you forgive them easily? Usually you can; he has forgiven me countless times, and I have not held grudges against him, but was disappointed in his lies even though they were to protect me from harm. That doesn’t mean the pain they create is less in anyway, or that it can be healed quickly. My advice is to not get misled into the belief that a Soulmate is the only option, or to expect too much. There can be times of shared bonding, but that they have the power to alter, and block your path when love gets confused with the expectations of the physical realm. While divorce and separations are never easy to deal with, one needs to accept it is a natural fabric of life; when people die, they will be parted eventually.

Maybe the lesson is to learn to let a Soulmate go, perhaps to experience the pain of losing love, or to learn how to cope with a forbidden love that may not be socially acceptable on the physical realm? Those are some of the other roles of a Soulmate in the Soul Group besides being a companion in an incarnation. Soulmate interactions are powerful—more powerful that the emotion and impact of love. Don’t under estimate their power and ability to change your path.